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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 145356"><p>100 cats might be a bit excessive. At that point people in suits come in and the neighbors start gawking and it's jut not pretty. Besides, that's a lot of litter box duty.</p><p></p><p>Other than that, it sounds good to me.</p><p></p><p>BBK made a lot of sense. When I was first divorced, I was lonely a lot. And for a lot of years. I cried myself to sleep often. </p><p></p><p>I'm not lonely anymore and haven't been for a long time. I don't know when it happened, just that it did. I think when I stopped determining my value by a lack of a man in my life and by valuing myself for who I am. That took a long time. </p><p></p><p>And of course, determining my value by whether or not I had a man made me make some really stupid choices when it came to men. I wasn't looking for someone I wanted to be with, I just didn't want to be alone.</p><p></p><p>I *love* being single. It would take someone pretty extraordinary to make me change my status now. </p><p></p><p>I remember years ago - when I was still making stupid men choices - friends telling me that I was too picky. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /> I wasn't picky enough. </p><p></p><p>I'm not willing to settle. I have no 'need' to. I don't feel a need to have someone in my life so when I decide to bring someone in it will be because I want to. And I will not again settle for less than I deserve.</p><p></p><p>And neither should you. You're one tough lady with a loving and compassionate heart. You deserve someone that recognizes, respects and compliments that.</p><p></p><p>The loneliness - it's part of the process you're going through - grieving, learning, reinventing yourself. You'll get there</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 145356"] 100 cats might be a bit excessive. At that point people in suits come in and the neighbors start gawking and it's jut not pretty. Besides, that's a lot of litter box duty. Other than that, it sounds good to me. BBK made a lot of sense. When I was first divorced, I was lonely a lot. And for a lot of years. I cried myself to sleep often. I'm not lonely anymore and haven't been for a long time. I don't know when it happened, just that it did. I think when I stopped determining my value by a lack of a man in my life and by valuing myself for who I am. That took a long time. And of course, determining my value by whether or not I had a man made me make some really stupid choices when it came to men. I wasn't looking for someone I wanted to be with, I just didn't want to be alone. I *love* being single. It would take someone pretty extraordinary to make me change my status now. I remember years ago - when I was still making stupid men choices - friends telling me that I was too picky. :knockedout: I wasn't picky enough. I'm not willing to settle. I have no 'need' to. I don't feel a need to have someone in my life so when I decide to bring someone in it will be because I want to. And I will not again settle for less than I deserve. And neither should you. You're one tough lady with a loving and compassionate heart. You deserve someone that recognizes, respects and compliments that. The loneliness - it's part of the process you're going through - grieving, learning, reinventing yourself. You'll get there (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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