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When can a child cry for help and feel safe?
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 290970" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Oh no, tat's awful.</p><p></p><p>But what was wrong with you going to the other police station, if you had been told the case was closed? You're not to know it's been re-opened.</p><p></p><p>I had similar problems with difficult child 3's school at one stage - I was talking to the school counsellor (at the suggestion of the class teacher) and school counsellor suggested I call the district disabilities person about the issue in question. District disabilities person said, "Let's call in te behaviour therapistagain, I'll organise it."</p><p>Next thing I'm getting yelled at by the class teacher because the behaviour therapistshouldn't have been called in without asking permission/informing the class teacher or the principal, because it looks like I'm expressing lack of confidence in them (perish the thought).</p><p></p><p>I initially appologist for my breach in protocol and grovelled to the teacher about how I was terribly sorry for sending possible bad messages; then I thought, "I'm the parent, what do I know of departmental protocol? My aim is to see my child's needs are met; I don't have time to tiptoe around customs, regulations and over-sensitive teachers. So I retracted my apology and warned them that while I wouldn't go out of my way to undermine them, if at any time in the future I trod on toes in a similar way they would just have to live with it because I was not in the system and therefore not bound by it. I do what I think is right according to the information I have at the time. If the information I have is not correct, that is not my fault. We correct as we go and deal with it as we go.</p><p></p><p>We can only do the best we can, and we're not necessarily trained in the protocol and regulations of the way the system is supposed to work. </p><p></p><p>So if they don't want us to get it wrong - THEY have to get it right, or put up with us blundering around trying to protect our children.</p><p></p><p>So there.</p><p></p><p>So don't feel bad (if you do - I wouldn't) for going to the wrong police station or whatever - you were doing what you thought was the right thing.</p><p>Can you take her to the correct police station next week? Or is there a chance bio-dad or bio-mum will put a spanner in the works before then, now you've tipped your hand?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 290970, member: 1991"] Oh no, tat's awful. But what was wrong with you going to the other police station, if you had been told the case was closed? You're not to know it's been re-opened. I had similar problems with difficult child 3's school at one stage - I was talking to the school counsellor (at the suggestion of the class teacher) and school counsellor suggested I call the district disabilities person about the issue in question. District disabilities person said, "Let's call in te behaviour therapistagain, I'll organise it." Next thing I'm getting yelled at by the class teacher because the behaviour therapistshouldn't have been called in without asking permission/informing the class teacher or the principal, because it looks like I'm expressing lack of confidence in them (perish the thought). I initially appologist for my breach in protocol and grovelled to the teacher about how I was terribly sorry for sending possible bad messages; then I thought, "I'm the parent, what do I know of departmental protocol? My aim is to see my child's needs are met; I don't have time to tiptoe around customs, regulations and over-sensitive teachers. So I retracted my apology and warned them that while I wouldn't go out of my way to undermine them, if at any time in the future I trod on toes in a similar way they would just have to live with it because I was not in the system and therefore not bound by it. I do what I think is right according to the information I have at the time. If the information I have is not correct, that is not my fault. We correct as we go and deal with it as we go. We can only do the best we can, and we're not necessarily trained in the protocol and regulations of the way the system is supposed to work. So if they don't want us to get it wrong - THEY have to get it right, or put up with us blundering around trying to protect our children. So there. So don't feel bad (if you do - I wouldn't) for going to the wrong police station or whatever - you were doing what you thought was the right thing. Can you take her to the correct police station next week? Or is there a chance bio-dad or bio-mum will put a spanner in the works before then, now you've tipped your hand? Marg [/QUOTE]
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