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When do you feel a child needs to leave the home? When is enough enough?
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 280496" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>I think there is a difference in raising an adopted child vs raising a bio child....not in love, of course...but in blame and guilt.</p><p> </p><p>You know for a fact that anything your adopted child may have inherited, or been subjected to during pregnancy, or suffered during early childhood was not your fault and had nothing to do with you....</p><p> </p><p>Whereas, your biological child that you carried and raised from birth....? There will always be nagging questions for me. Is it hereditary? Does she get this from me? Was it something I did? Was it something I could have done better? Was it the drugs they gave me to prevent pre-term labor? Was it the time that I was tired and she fell when I was changing her diaper? Did I give her the wrong food? Did she miss out on some important vitamin or nutrient? Should I not have gone back to work? Did I leave her with the wrong sitter? etc etc</p><p> </p><p>The list goes on and on....</p><p> </p><p>And so for a biological child--I imagine that there will always be more guilt and a sense that we, as parents, have to make up for past mistakes that might be the cause of our child's issues.</p><p> </p><p>If my daughter inherited mental illness from my side of the family--how can I possibly cut all ties even if she kills the dogs? Was I not aware that I have a blood relative who has also killed dogs? How can I be irresponsible enough to pass on those genes and then abandon the child?</p><p> </p><p>It's never black and white....</p><p> </p><p>And there seem to be no easy answers.</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyF</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 280496, member: 6546"] I think there is a difference in raising an adopted child vs raising a bio child....not in love, of course...but in blame and guilt. You know for a fact that anything your adopted child may have inherited, or been subjected to during pregnancy, or suffered during early childhood was not your fault and had nothing to do with you.... Whereas, your biological child that you carried and raised from birth....? There will always be nagging questions for me. Is it hereditary? Does she get this from me? Was it something I did? Was it something I could have done better? Was it the drugs they gave me to prevent pre-term labor? Was it the time that I was tired and she fell when I was changing her diaper? Did I give her the wrong food? Did she miss out on some important vitamin or nutrient? Should I not have gone back to work? Did I leave her with the wrong sitter? etc etc The list goes on and on.... And so for a biological child--I imagine that there will always be more guilt and a sense that we, as parents, have to make up for past mistakes that might be the cause of our child's issues. If my daughter inherited mental illness from my side of the family--how can I possibly cut all ties even if she kills the dogs? Was I not aware that I have a blood relative who has also killed dogs? How can I be irresponsible enough to pass on those genes and then abandon the child? It's never black and white.... And there seem to be no easy answers. --DaisyF [/QUOTE]
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