Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
When/If to Discuss With My Mom???
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 559269" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Thank You so much. I am not going to tell her anything. You are right, it does put him somewhat back in our lives and that isn't good. </p><p></p><p>I have a feeling that bro has been feeling some of the heat of disapproval since he cannot create his conflama camouflage. In the past if he had done something that would create a problem for him with my parents, he would invent something I or my kids or husband had done/said that was awful/mean/whatever and then my mom would be so busy being upset with me that she didn't focus on his problem and they were BOTH fairly happy with this arrangement. Mom didn't have to worry about what bro would do when she got upset or set a boundary with him, and he didn't have to deal with whatever boundary she set or with her being upset with him.</p><p></p><p>I do know that he did something financial because now my mom is monitoring his bank acct and spending on a daily basis. they are paying for his grad school expenses provided he does not work ANY job outside his grad assistant job through his dept at the university. Mostly this was because last time he tried grad school he cut classes and ddn't do homework because he was doing tree trimming and that took all his time. but my mom has NEVER wanted access to our finances, not even when we were teens did she monitor our bank accounts. So this is a HUGE change and it would only have happened if he did something really big or he was caught lying to her about having paid something or about the source of a large deposit,and the lying would have to happen a lot more than one time for her t get to this point. I was truly shocked when she mentioned having to monitor his accounts like he was a toddler. Makes me wonder, but I won't ask.</p><p></p><p>Coupled with her questions, I sort of think he may be imploding on himself. I wish him the best, and hope taht when he does self desstruct again that he doesn't take my mom's mental health along for the ride. His last 2 really huge implosions combned to send her into a true breakdown.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for reminding me that NOTHING I could say would ever result in anything positive. I won't lie if asked point blank, but she won't ask because she doesn't want to know and likely already does. Cause with-o me to tell all his weird things to and to show off inappropriately about his sex life to, then he would treat our mom to all that knowledge and experience. And is ISN'T fun and goes WAY beyond too much information.</p><p></p><p>I will let them deal with their strange relationship all by themselves. I just really pray he hasn't truly harmed someone else.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 559269, member: 1233"] Thank You so much. I am not going to tell her anything. You are right, it does put him somewhat back in our lives and that isn't good. I have a feeling that bro has been feeling some of the heat of disapproval since he cannot create his conflama camouflage. In the past if he had done something that would create a problem for him with my parents, he would invent something I or my kids or husband had done/said that was awful/mean/whatever and then my mom would be so busy being upset with me that she didn't focus on his problem and they were BOTH fairly happy with this arrangement. Mom didn't have to worry about what bro would do when she got upset or set a boundary with him, and he didn't have to deal with whatever boundary she set or with her being upset with him. I do know that he did something financial because now my mom is monitoring his bank acct and spending on a daily basis. they are paying for his grad school expenses provided he does not work ANY job outside his grad assistant job through his dept at the university. Mostly this was because last time he tried grad school he cut classes and ddn't do homework because he was doing tree trimming and that took all his time. but my mom has NEVER wanted access to our finances, not even when we were teens did she monitor our bank accounts. So this is a HUGE change and it would only have happened if he did something really big or he was caught lying to her about having paid something or about the source of a large deposit,and the lying would have to happen a lot more than one time for her t get to this point. I was truly shocked when she mentioned having to monitor his accounts like he was a toddler. Makes me wonder, but I won't ask. Coupled with her questions, I sort of think he may be imploding on himself. I wish him the best, and hope taht when he does self desstruct again that he doesn't take my mom's mental health along for the ride. His last 2 really huge implosions combned to send her into a true breakdown. Thanks for reminding me that NOTHING I could say would ever result in anything positive. I won't lie if asked point blank, but she won't ask because she doesn't want to know and likely already does. Cause with-o me to tell all his weird things to and to show off inappropriately about his sex life to, then he would treat our mom to all that knowledge and experience. And is ISN'T fun and goes WAY beyond too much information. I will let them deal with their strange relationship all by themselves. I just really pray he hasn't truly harmed someone else. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
When/If to Discuss With My Mom???
Top