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when it gets so bad it's divorce time?
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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 221170" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Been there, felt like that, came THIS CLOSE...</p><p> </p><p>A lot of our kids' problems were exacerbated by husband's own mental health problems -- oh wait, look! I developed problems of my OWN TOO!!!</p><p> </p><p>We tried joint counseling (almost sank the ship because the counselor was a poor fit for husband).</p><p> </p><p>So I then went to counseling on my own, and also found a support group which helped TREMENDOUSLY for my own mental and physical health.</p><p> </p><p>I also sought counseling for the kids.</p><p> </p><p>Then, due to some physical health problems (seizures), husband finally started psychiatric medications and things started to change a LOT. I don't think we'd be where we are today, a relatively stable and happy family, had he not had the physical problem that led to his taking medications that helped both his physical issues AND his mental issues.</p><p> </p><p>Take care of yourself, number ONE. (Remember what they say on airplanes? Give yourself the oxygen mask FIRST, then worry about others around you). If husband won't go to counseling with you, then get help for yourself. It's very likely a therapist can listen to your situation with husband and offer some very helpful advice for how to manage things best, maybe even influence husband to be more cooperative and give counseling a try (if not with you, then by himself).</p><p> </p><p>Raising difficult child's is incredibly hard on a marriage, even the strongest ones.</p><p> </p><p>(((((HUGS!)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 221170, member: 3444"] Been there, felt like that, came THIS CLOSE... A lot of our kids' problems were exacerbated by husband's own mental health problems -- oh wait, look! I developed problems of my OWN TOO!!! We tried joint counseling (almost sank the ship because the counselor was a poor fit for husband). So I then went to counseling on my own, and also found a support group which helped TREMENDOUSLY for my own mental and physical health. I also sought counseling for the kids. Then, due to some physical health problems (seizures), husband finally started psychiatric medications and things started to change a LOT. I don't think we'd be where we are today, a relatively stable and happy family, had he not had the physical problem that led to his taking medications that helped both his physical issues AND his mental issues. Take care of yourself, number ONE. (Remember what they say on airplanes? Give yourself the oxygen mask FIRST, then worry about others around you). If husband won't go to counseling with you, then get help for yourself. It's very likely a therapist can listen to your situation with husband and offer some very helpful advice for how to manage things best, maybe even influence husband to be more cooperative and give counseling a try (if not with you, then by himself). Raising difficult child's is incredibly hard on a marriage, even the strongest ones. (((((HUGS!))))) [/QUOTE]
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