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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 122781" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'">Pepperidge,</span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'"></span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'">wm, in particular, has haunted me for a long time. I never see him living independently; I'm having more & more doubts about kt, even with her gains in life skills & such.</span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'"></span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'">However, for the most part, I'm past the depression - the despair. I'm already searching for transitional living programs & adult group homes for the tweedles. Have been for a year or two now.</span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'"></span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'">And I have to remember, this is nothing that can be fixed; it can be tweaked & fine tuned, but when dealing with organic brain injury & such there is little but skills training & supervision.</span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'"></span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'">In the end, I hope that some of the love & values we have worked so hard to instill in the tweedles will shine through. That they will not have the need for the level of supervision for which we are preparing. </span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'"></span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'">We are working through this with our assigned county mental health case manager & our CADI (community alternative for disabled individuals) manager. These 2 people are the ones we turn to for help with resources. Our CADI manager, especially, is looking ahead & scoping our ideas that we had no idea existed. I believe that she has kt & wm on waiting lists already.</span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'"></span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'">It was only after beginning that kind of research & seeing an "actual" waiting list was I able to process my true feelings over this & work on the positives. Be able to enjoy kt's delightful sense of humor & wm's very intelligent & curious mind. </span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'"></span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'">As your difficult child is, what 9 y/o, it's time to do that "prepare for the worst & hope for the best" thing - then it's time to start enjoying the child you have. The parts in that child that delight you & fill you with joy. Even if you have to look deep to find those parts, because I know there is something there that fill your heart with love for your child.</span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'"></span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'">Take care of yourself. The daily grind of our little wonders can tear the spirit down. Find that one thing daily that is yours alone; that is therapeutic or spiritual or whatever , that gets you through the day.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/flower.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":flower:" title="flower :flower:" data-shortname=":flower:" /></span></span></span></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Book Antiqua'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'"></span></span></span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 122781, member: 393"] [COLOR=Navy][SIZE=3][FONT=Book Antiqua][SIZE=4][FONT=Franklin Gothic Medium]Pepperidge, wm, in particular, has haunted me for a long time. I never see him living independently; I'm having more & more doubts about kt, even with her gains in life skills & such. However, for the most part, I'm past the depression - the despair. I'm already searching for transitional living programs & adult group homes for the tweedles. Have been for a year or two now. And I have to remember, this is nothing that can be fixed; it can be tweaked & fine tuned, but when dealing with organic brain injury & such there is little but skills training & supervision. In the end, I hope that some of the love & values we have worked so hard to instill in the tweedles will shine through. That they will not have the need for the level of supervision for which we are preparing. We are working through this with our assigned county mental health case manager & our CADI (community alternative for disabled individuals) manager. These 2 people are the ones we turn to for help with resources. Our CADI manager, especially, is looking ahead & scoping our ideas that we had no idea existed. I believe that she has kt & wm on waiting lists already. It was only after beginning that kind of research & seeing an "actual" waiting list was I able to process my true feelings over this & work on the positives. Be able to enjoy kt's delightful sense of humor & wm's very intelligent & curious mind. As your difficult child is, what 9 y/o, it's time to do that "prepare for the worst & hope for the best" thing - then it's time to start enjoying the child you have. The parts in that child that delight you & fill you with joy. Even if you have to look deep to find those parts, because I know there is something there that fill your heart with love for your child. Take care of yourself. The daily grind of our little wonders can tear the spirit down. Find that one thing daily that is yours alone; that is therapeutic or spiritual or whatever , that gets you through the day.:flower: [/FONT][/SIZE][/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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