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When the long term future for your child is very bleak....
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<blockquote data-quote="BestICan" data-source="post: 123208" data-attributes="member: 3413"><p>I thought I wouldn't have anything to add to this discussion, but then I remembered my cousin J. She's in her 40's, has a job, a roommate, sends and receives lots of emails, swims with the special olympics, and lives in a sweet little apartment with 24/7 support staff. She is blind and developmentally delayed. Obviously I'm not her mother, so I never experienced the mommy heartbreak. But as her cousin, from a relatively objective viewpoint, dang, she's very happy with her life and would probably laugh if I suggested she's missing out on something. </p><p></p><p>As her cousin, I went to her moving "shower" - the party her family threw before she moved out of the house, when she was in her 30's. I cheered for her (long distance) when she swam in her swim meets. I listened to her talk on the phone about her favorite sports teams. I exchange emails with her. I'm one of many, many friends and family who do the same. I guess what I'm saying is, from my standpoint, she's perfectly happy and reaching higher than I ever imagined. Based on the little I've heard from my mom, J's parents had different plans for J, but eventually those plans morphed into what she has now. And by the time I was old enough to see it and understand it (I'm remembering the moving "shower" specifically), all I saw were two very proud parents. </p><p></p><p>Hugs to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BestICan, post: 123208, member: 3413"] I thought I wouldn't have anything to add to this discussion, but then I remembered my cousin J. She's in her 40's, has a job, a roommate, sends and receives lots of emails, swims with the special olympics, and lives in a sweet little apartment with 24/7 support staff. She is blind and developmentally delayed. Obviously I'm not her mother, so I never experienced the mommy heartbreak. But as her cousin, from a relatively objective viewpoint, dang, she's very happy with her life and would probably laugh if I suggested she's missing out on something. As her cousin, I went to her moving "shower" - the party her family threw before she moved out of the house, when she was in her 30's. I cheered for her (long distance) when she swam in her swim meets. I listened to her talk on the phone about her favorite sports teams. I exchange emails with her. I'm one of many, many friends and family who do the same. I guess what I'm saying is, from my standpoint, she's perfectly happy and reaching higher than I ever imagined. Based on the little I've heard from my mom, J's parents had different plans for J, but eventually those plans morphed into what she has now. And by the time I was old enough to see it and understand it (I'm remembering the moving "shower" specifically), all I saw were two very proud parents. Hugs to you! [/QUOTE]
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