I think I read that processing problems are not considered a disability. I know, I know but it is what it is. Your best bet for services would be Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS). Has Pat ever had a functional screening? That was mandatory before sonic got services. For that, we had to start at Aging and Disabilities. It was a series of things we had to walk through (and a pain) but there was a certain path we had to take and private testing was not step one. Yes, I know. Nutty.
In the end, the trail was worth it. The services helped Sonic grow up and thrive and now he is almost 100 percent independent. He'd probably still live with us if not for them.
Again, I wish you like. Look how Belle made it. Pat can make it too. Hugs to all of you.