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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 684206" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Yes, I think that's a good idea.</p><p> </p><p>He is "disabled" enough that he doesn't recognize that he needs medical intervention. Therefore, he needs to be forced into testing. Which will still require compliance - again, probably under threat.</p><p> </p><p>The ironic side to this is, you probably win either way. If he can pull himself together enough for testing to prove he isn't disabled, then... he's into the "kick butt and grow up" category (which I suspect he doesn't want), OR he cooperates and the tester properly takes other information (a.k.a. his parents' and teachers' feedback) into account, and he is actually disabled, in which case there needs to be all sorts of other plans for the future (which I suspect he also doesn't want).</p><p> </p><p>He doesn't want anything to change. But he has no choice. So, Pat - are you able, or not able? Because Dad and Mom can't support you for the rest of your life. You either support yourself, or cooperate in getting other supports.</p><p> </p><p>And yes, Pat, life DOES stink. It's the stinking reality for every one of us, and for many of our kids. The only way you get away from the stink is to <em>rise above it</em> - prove the world wrong, show us how able you really are, get on with your life - and that applies whether able or disabled.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 684206, member: 11791"] Yes, I think that's a good idea. He is "disabled" enough that he doesn't recognize that he needs medical intervention. Therefore, he needs to be forced into testing. Which will still require compliance - again, probably under threat. The ironic side to this is, you probably win either way. If he can pull himself together enough for testing to prove he isn't disabled, then... he's into the "kick butt and grow up" category (which I suspect he doesn't want), OR he cooperates and the tester properly takes other information (a.k.a. his parents' and teachers' feedback) into account, and he is actually disabled, in which case there needs to be all sorts of other plans for the future (which I suspect he also doesn't want). He doesn't want anything to change. But he has no choice. So, Pat - are you able, or not able? Because Dad and Mom can't support you for the rest of your life. You either support yourself, or cooperate in getting other supports. And yes, Pat, life DOES stink. It's the stinking reality for every one of us, and for many of our kids. The only way you get away from the stink is to [I]rise above it[/I] - prove the world wrong, show us how able you really are, get on with your life - and that applies whether able or disabled. [/QUOTE]
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