difficult child 2 has the chance to try out for something in which she excels. she's been talking about this day for two years. but the process of doing so just caused a meltdown. (some background: this would require me to move heaven and earth til the end of the school year, and while i'm not thrilled abou it, i was willing to. this is also something that while she excels at it, could be a *major* source of anxiety and of course we run the risk of massive behaviors. it could be a lot of pressure. its also something that there would be no turning back from. its ALSO probably the singularly most ridiculous process i've seen yet for someone her age--professionals don't have to do what's being asked--i could wring this person's neck, lol.) anyway. the best i can tell she's overwhelmed with the workload of the tryout alone. its her typical M.O.---too much effort and she shuts down. i've tried breaking it down into very small parts, but it didn't help. the truth is, if she just did it, it would probably be a no-brainer...she's *that* good. and its something that would theoretically be a ginormous self esteem booster for her. i'm 99% positive there is nothing in the process she is unable to do--its just the thought of the work. i dont (and really can't) force her. but at some point in life she's going to end up with a ton of regrets from not even trying. its a shame to me that she always takes the easy (lazy) way out. at what point do you push? or, at what point do you just say, oh well?