I respectfully disagree on letting your rage out on her. Tell a therapist. Your daughter is sick and devious and dangerous and in my opinion it's best not to engage her at all. The last thing you want is to anger an obviously dangerous adult who has no conscience and stole from you twice.
She has no empathy and will not care what you say other than possibly thinking of getting back at you again. You don't need that. You need professional help to help with the rage and to start a new life.
Now I never felt rage toward my kids, even the man who left. I was hurt not angry. So maybe this is something you strongly do feel you need to do. Just please remember...she is capable of crime against you and please value your safety first. Baggy Bags, your son is younger and has not done as much to you yet, but he is a risk totyou too. in my opinion you could probably also benefit alot from therapy too. Your path is hard...you deserve coping skills and therapy.
Please Magnolia get professional help and make certain that the psychologist truly understands attachment disorder. (((hugs))).
