If she was high or crashing, nothing you did would have pleased her. I lived with that too remember. Don't feel bad that you decided to keep the pillow case that matches your set. Chances are, whichever pillow case she has won't be well taken care of anyway and will be ruined.
I like the gift card idea. I don't think it buys drugs. One thing we don't have to do, is help them get drugs, even if that's just our tiny little protest.
When my daughter was using, she could look me straight in the eyes, unblinking, cry and tell me the most outrageous lies that I'd always find out about. She was quite the actress.
