He is not her biological father, but has been her dad since she was 2. He legally adopted her when she was still very little. So, he is in fact, her dad. They are SO much alike, both pig headed, stubborn, have to have the last word - oh my - you would SWEAR she came from him!!! It is very hard playing referee between those two....and yesterday I swear I had PTSD with all of it happening again.
Well, she sent me an apology and sent him one too. He just texted me shocked to hear an apology from her. It's a start...but I do think I am offering way too much help too soon. I need to control my need to give to her. 
