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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 446719" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>PG I'm going to be tough here but it's only because I care about you and difficult child and I have been there done that so many times. You are trying to rescue her and you can't. She has to rescue herself. It's time she get over the dog. She's a big girl now so put on her big girl pants and start figuring out what you are going to do to get out of this mess. She wants a dog because she thinks it will be something to love. No matter that she can't buy food for it or care for it if she's on the street. She has to love herself first.</p><p></p><p>I would not let her come over to work for you at the house. You saw how that turned out. If you want to buy her shoes that's up to you, but buy them and deliver them and go back home. </p><p></p><p>Her behavior smells drug use all over it. It's exactly how my difficult child would act. Her apology is not sincere, it's only because she's afraid you won't enable her or give her what she wants. I've gotten so many of those apologies after a day like you had and none of them were sincere. Until she is clean and sober nothing she says or does will make sense or be honest.</p><p></p><p>She is trying to manipulate you. And because she is pulling at your heartstrings it is working. Tell her you love her and you want her to be ok but that she is not going to treat you disrespectfully or come into your home and act like that any longer. Tell her when she is serious about changing her life to make a plan and let you know what it is and you will be the first one there to support her.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 446719, member: 59"] PG I'm going to be tough here but it's only because I care about you and difficult child and I have been there done that so many times. You are trying to rescue her and you can't. She has to rescue herself. It's time she get over the dog. She's a big girl now so put on her big girl pants and start figuring out what you are going to do to get out of this mess. She wants a dog because she thinks it will be something to love. No matter that she can't buy food for it or care for it if she's on the street. She has to love herself first. I would not let her come over to work for you at the house. You saw how that turned out. If you want to buy her shoes that's up to you, but buy them and deliver them and go back home. Her behavior smells drug use all over it. It's exactly how my difficult child would act. Her apology is not sincere, it's only because she's afraid you won't enable her or give her what she wants. I've gotten so many of those apologies after a day like you had and none of them were sincere. Until she is clean and sober nothing she says or does will make sense or be honest. She is trying to manipulate you. And because she is pulling at your heartstrings it is working. Tell her you love her and you want her to be ok but that she is not going to treat you disrespectfully or come into your home and act like that any longer. Tell her when she is serious about changing her life to make a plan and let you know what it is and you will be the first one there to support her. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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