That is just how it happened with our daughter too. Our daughter is 40, now. She has had times when she functioned beautifully, and times which were hellish.
I agree with the previous posters. Above all, it is what it is. If you begin with Social Services in your area, you will learn a little more about grandparents' rights in your state, and about how to proceed from here. You do not need to give your name. This can be just an exploration of possibilities for you. Look in the blue pages or Government section of your phone book under Social Services. Tell whoever answers the phone what you would like to talk about, and they will connect you to the appropriate person. When husband and I checked into taking our granddaughter, it even turned out there was a monthly stipend that would go with her, even though we live in another state.
Always, it is best to treat both parents with respect if possible. Whatever has happened to them, both love their child, and want what is best for her.
I agree.
I am sorry this is happening to you. I know how painful it is.
Cedar
