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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 418458" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hi Grace, </p><p> </p><p>Sending Hugs first for you; and for your son. I do know exactly what you are going through. It is hard to move. You don't feel like you are living, just existing. Motions, motions and boom. Moments in between sleep? I had that with my x. It's really maddening. He's still at it. I actually think he prays for jail time so he can dry out. I know that the people have been IN jail with him when he is drying out? Pray. My son has talked to a few of them and they've said it's like nothing you've ever been around - I have. I can think of about a thousand other horrible things I'd rather do than be within 10 miles of someone like that. They are dangerous, unpredictable, violent. Be careful - make sure you always have your cell phone with you and charged. Have a spare set of keys somewhere accessible and keep your car locked, bank card and money where he can't possibly get to it. Put up valuables, and also any money and anything dangerous. Precautions now could help you later. Him too. </p><p> </p><p>Hate to say it, but rather tell you now that worry about it later. </p><p> </p><p>Do you have anyone there to talk to? I mean other than us? Do you have a pet - maybe a dog that you can take for a walk out in the sunshine to get some great air and time out of the house, some exercise and some companionship? Sounds a little nutty - but my dog was and is probably the best stress reliever in the whole world. I talk to him just like I do anyone. I wouldn't admit it to many - but I swear he understands better than anyone. I think his fur is the best kleenex in the world. And crying is really a great release of endorphines. I thought it was bad to cry - turns out it's really a great release to get it all out of your system. Now if you're crying all the time, all the time, all the time? I'd probably tell you to get to the doctor, get a medications tweak and, of course - I always think it is a good idea to see a therapist because they have training that gives you hope, goals and helps you work on things you know about yourself...that I'll never know. Also helps you sort it all out logically. </p><p> </p><p>As far as your son? Well hon- he sure has gotten himself into some muck huh? I have lost so much to drugs - a marriage, a son - it just makes me furious somedays beyond words, and I'm not sure what the answer is. Pray...a lot. Take care of yourself. Get angry when you need to, and find out how to channel it for yourself. Find a way to forgive your son, and love what you love in him, and about him. I think that's the best I can tell you from a Moms point of view. I do know - he has to see you strong - there has to be someone there stronger to show him drugs can't beat everyone, and win everything in his family over. That much I can tell you - that's why I say take care of you - whatever it takes. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs and Love - </p><p>(don't ever let it defeat you..we'll always be here to prop you up) </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 418458, member: 4964"] Hi Grace, Sending Hugs first for you; and for your son. I do know exactly what you are going through. It is hard to move. You don't feel like you are living, just existing. Motions, motions and boom. Moments in between sleep? I had that with my x. It's really maddening. He's still at it. I actually think he prays for jail time so he can dry out. I know that the people have been IN jail with him when he is drying out? Pray. My son has talked to a few of them and they've said it's like nothing you've ever been around - I have. I can think of about a thousand other horrible things I'd rather do than be within 10 miles of someone like that. They are dangerous, unpredictable, violent. Be careful - make sure you always have your cell phone with you and charged. Have a spare set of keys somewhere accessible and keep your car locked, bank card and money where he can't possibly get to it. Put up valuables, and also any money and anything dangerous. Precautions now could help you later. Him too. Hate to say it, but rather tell you now that worry about it later. Do you have anyone there to talk to? I mean other than us? Do you have a pet - maybe a dog that you can take for a walk out in the sunshine to get some great air and time out of the house, some exercise and some companionship? Sounds a little nutty - but my dog was and is probably the best stress reliever in the whole world. I talk to him just like I do anyone. I wouldn't admit it to many - but I swear he understands better than anyone. I think his fur is the best kleenex in the world. And crying is really a great release of endorphines. I thought it was bad to cry - turns out it's really a great release to get it all out of your system. Now if you're crying all the time, all the time, all the time? I'd probably tell you to get to the doctor, get a medications tweak and, of course - I always think it is a good idea to see a therapist because they have training that gives you hope, goals and helps you work on things you know about yourself...that I'll never know. Also helps you sort it all out logically. As far as your son? Well hon- he sure has gotten himself into some muck huh? I have lost so much to drugs - a marriage, a son - it just makes me furious somedays beyond words, and I'm not sure what the answer is. Pray...a lot. Take care of yourself. Get angry when you need to, and find out how to channel it for yourself. Find a way to forgive your son, and love what you love in him, and about him. I think that's the best I can tell you from a Moms point of view. I do know - he has to see you strong - there has to be someone there stronger to show him drugs can't beat everyone, and win everything in his family over. That much I can tell you - that's why I say take care of you - whatever it takes. Hugs and Love - (don't ever let it defeat you..we'll always be here to prop you up) Star [/QUOTE]
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