I agree with everyone else about the financial matters.
I think you are way too overenmeshed with your daughter. She is an adult, living on her own, and you need to step back and allow her to make choices and reap the benefits or suffer the consequences, as hard as it may be.
You have to respect that your relationship has changed. It isn't better or worse, but it is different, and like any adult she is going to make choices with which you don't agree. You daughter is trying to transition from a adult/child to an adult/adult relationship.
I am wondering if your current medications maybe need a tweak, because you seem to be somewhat emotionally labile. Your daughter does, too, but that is her problem.
Maybe you can check out your local chapter of NAMI and find a support group.
https://www.nami.org/#
