Hi everyone! I'm brand new here. I'm a 36 year old mom of three children. My oldest child is 10 years old and in 4th grade. For years, I thought he has had ADHD. We had to move him from a public school to a private school with smaller class sizes. We also had him repeat a grade because he was struggling so much. During parent conferences, teachers would always say that he doesn't pay attention and lacks self confidence. This year, his worksheets often have "pay attention" and "follow directions" written on them. However, no one ever said that we needed to get him tested or even get an IEP. Teachers believe that he doesn't have ADHD because he is not hyper in school. Next year he will be going to middle school and I'm afraid that he won't be able to do the work. Besides all this, we have behavior issues going on at home. He is defiant, combative, hostile, and constantly blaming others for his actions. He told me that he will "never surrender"! Like this is a battle or something! He even stole something from a friend! That was the last straw for me. I called the doctor and asked for a referral to a behavior specialist. Well, I got a call the day before the appointment saying that our insurance doesn't cover it and the appointment was cancelled! Now, We're going to probably have to wait for months to get an appointment from an approved psychiatrist! What do I do? How can I keep my sanity through all this? The school district told me that I have to get tested through a psychologist before they will even do anything for him. I am assuming this will take lots of $$$. Any advice would be appreciated! By the way, what does difficult child stand for?