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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 575326" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Well, thank you all for your comments. I think you have covered the full range of opinions <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> But, seriously, that is not unhelpful... no-one can take the decision but me, obviously.</p><p>You are right, SuZir, that at the moment J is a Moroccan national (with the right, easily renewable, to live in France until 2015). As far as I understand it, as long as I have a house here, and an income, I should be able to return here to live with J until his majority - so returning here for secondary school might be an option, for example. One has the right to apply for French citizenship after five years of continuous residence.</p><p>I shouldn't be shocked, I know, but the teacher's attitude did shock me a little. Or his apparent attitude. He seemed to kind of laugh when he spoke about J, as if to say "oh, what a funny, eccentric little boy - he's just different from the others and I let him potter around, being different". This shocks me because I am quite sure that J has potential and capacities just like the "normal" kids. One positive thing he did say that I forgot about - his handwriting is "amazingly good", neat and fluid... </p><p>I do think that a system that accepts and values J <em>as he is</em> would have to be better for him. There is a Catholic Montessori school that has caught my eye - in the middle of France so four or five hours drive from here. I am planning to go to the UK for the next half-term holiday and if I drive, could possibly stop on the way and visit this school... Would have to let my house out as no-one wants to buy it for the moment. On the other hand, the little private school I went to see in Morocco has just six or seven kids in each class. I also have a friend there who is an ex-primary school teacher (an excellent one, it is clear to me) who would be willing to give J private reading lessons occasionally. </p><p>On the French thing... I don't want to stir things up but I think it is indeed a good habit to get into to be appreciative of the country where one lives as well as critical. There are many things to be appreciative of in France and I am grateful to this country that gave us a welcome when my own country, the UK, did not... in terms of humanitarian, social and collective provision, France is way ahead of most countries in the developed world. At the same time, it seems a simple fact that I hear everywhere repeated by French parents of ADHD kids, that there is very little popular understanding of ADHD or understanding from teachers. You have to really battle to get accommodations and recognition. I am sure that the situation is slowly changing and there is more and more understanding all the time. This is not a culture that particularly values difference and individuality and it can be tough to have a child who is different here. Imagining that it will be all roses somewhere else, however... is clearly delusional. Life with difficult children is tough wherever you are. I am sure we can all agree on that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 575326, member: 11227"] Well, thank you all for your comments. I think you have covered the full range of opinions :) But, seriously, that is not unhelpful... no-one can take the decision but me, obviously. You are right, SuZir, that at the moment J is a Moroccan national (with the right, easily renewable, to live in France until 2015). As far as I understand it, as long as I have a house here, and an income, I should be able to return here to live with J until his majority - so returning here for secondary school might be an option, for example. One has the right to apply for French citizenship after five years of continuous residence. I shouldn't be shocked, I know, but the teacher's attitude did shock me a little. Or his apparent attitude. He seemed to kind of laugh when he spoke about J, as if to say "oh, what a funny, eccentric little boy - he's just different from the others and I let him potter around, being different". This shocks me because I am quite sure that J has potential and capacities just like the "normal" kids. One positive thing he did say that I forgot about - his handwriting is "amazingly good", neat and fluid... I do think that a system that accepts and values J [I]as he is[/I] would have to be better for him. There is a Catholic Montessori school that has caught my eye - in the middle of France so four or five hours drive from here. I am planning to go to the UK for the next half-term holiday and if I drive, could possibly stop on the way and visit this school... Would have to let my house out as no-one wants to buy it for the moment. On the other hand, the little private school I went to see in Morocco has just six or seven kids in each class. I also have a friend there who is an ex-primary school teacher (an excellent one, it is clear to me) who would be willing to give J private reading lessons occasionally. On the French thing... I don't want to stir things up but I think it is indeed a good habit to get into to be appreciative of the country where one lives as well as critical. There are many things to be appreciative of in France and I am grateful to this country that gave us a welcome when my own country, the UK, did not... in terms of humanitarian, social and collective provision, France is way ahead of most countries in the developed world. At the same time, it seems a simple fact that I hear everywhere repeated by French parents of ADHD kids, that there is very little popular understanding of ADHD or understanding from teachers. You have to really battle to get accommodations and recognition. I am sure that the situation is slowly changing and there is more and more understanding all the time. This is not a culture that particularly values difference and individuality and it can be tough to have a child who is different here. Imagining that it will be all roses somewhere else, however... is clearly delusional. Life with difficult children is tough wherever you are. I am sure we can all agree on that. [/QUOTE]
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