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<blockquote data-quote="justtired" data-source="post: 464991" data-attributes="member: 12898"><p>I ordered <em>all</em> those books.. and am looking forward to reading them. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thats the point that we're at now. </p><p></p><p>The husband is a mush and so easygoing, and he's pooping in his pants at the thought of telling son the list of demands. But he's standing strong and will do it. He's making me laugh because he's walking around the house practicing his 'speech' . </p><p>I'm really surprised and delighted at how we've both come together to deal with this. Before this my husband would just leave it up to me. </p><p></p><p>I checked into GED classes and have a place son can go to for free. Aside from stopping stealing we're going to insist that son get his GED. </p><p></p><p>Son is still allowed to work in our business with our other son, but isn't allowed to collect the money or checks.. and from now on we're going to keep the records of how customers are paying. In case that sentence is confusing.... Our other son who doesn't live with us used to keep track of any customers that owed us and checks that we received and would then hand the checks and cash over to my husband. </p><p></p><p>and in Nov. son will be re-added to husbands insurance (it's free and we didn't know until recently that son could still stay on husbands insurance) anyway, we're going to insist on counseling. Nov. is so far away though.. and I don't know if he'd even go. Thats on the list of demands, but we don't and can't enforce it so it will depend on sons' future behavior on whether he's allowed to stay here or not. </p><p></p><p>I'm concerned about getting played too. But since this is the first time that we've ever made demands on our son, and the first time that dad is getting involved we're going to give it a shot and see if it works. We're going to watch him like a hawk though because we don't trust him. </p><p></p><p>This is his last chance and that's what he'll be told. He's got to get his act together or get out. </p><p></p><p>I've been thinking back and realize that my son walks all over me. Yes, it's taken me this long to realize it. He brought in a cat last year and I told him he couldn't keep it because it pees all over the basement. A hundred excuses later, and the cat is still here peeing in the basement which son cleans up thank goodness. I think he knows he can walk all over me because I've never enforced any threats I've made, and I've never had my husband back me up on anything. I always felt like I was a 'single' parent living with my husband. I'm really hoping that since my husband is involved now that my son will realize that this is serious and we're not going to back down.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="justtired, post: 464991, member: 12898"] I ordered [I]all[/I] those books.. and am looking forward to reading them. Thats the point that we're at now. The husband is a mush and so easygoing, and he's pooping in his pants at the thought of telling son the list of demands. But he's standing strong and will do it. He's making me laugh because he's walking around the house practicing his 'speech' . I'm really surprised and delighted at how we've both come together to deal with this. Before this my husband would just leave it up to me. I checked into GED classes and have a place son can go to for free. Aside from stopping stealing we're going to insist that son get his GED. Son is still allowed to work in our business with our other son, but isn't allowed to collect the money or checks.. and from now on we're going to keep the records of how customers are paying. In case that sentence is confusing.... Our other son who doesn't live with us used to keep track of any customers that owed us and checks that we received and would then hand the checks and cash over to my husband. and in Nov. son will be re-added to husbands insurance (it's free and we didn't know until recently that son could still stay on husbands insurance) anyway, we're going to insist on counseling. Nov. is so far away though.. and I don't know if he'd even go. Thats on the list of demands, but we don't and can't enforce it so it will depend on sons' future behavior on whether he's allowed to stay here or not. I'm concerned about getting played too. But since this is the first time that we've ever made demands on our son, and the first time that dad is getting involved we're going to give it a shot and see if it works. We're going to watch him like a hawk though because we don't trust him. This is his last chance and that's what he'll be told. He's got to get his act together or get out. I've been thinking back and realize that my son walks all over me. Yes, it's taken me this long to realize it. He brought in a cat last year and I told him he couldn't keep it because it pees all over the basement. A hundred excuses later, and the cat is still here peeing in the basement which son cleans up thank goodness. I think he knows he can walk all over me because I've never enforced any threats I've made, and I've never had my husband back me up on anything. I always felt like I was a 'single' parent living with my husband. I'm really hoping that since my husband is involved now that my son will realize that this is serious and we're not going to back down. [/QUOTE]
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