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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 465169" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I think you very much need to read How to Parent Your Teen with Love and Logic. It will give you strategies to handle many of his behaviors. Ones that WORK. While he is 24, he is basically a teenager - lives the life of one pretty much except he doesn't do chores or go to school. This book is awesome, and both you and husband will like it. It will give you strength and support and strategies. I have used them. On a difficult child and pcs and my husband. they WORK. the men who wrote the first love and logic book were high school principals and/or counselors. They worked with kids and figured out something that honestly works. The teachers I have given the various books to have seen results the first time they implemented them and they are still seeing results.</p><p></p><p>The drama of the knife? No one in my family tries suicide attempts around me. Ever. My husband went through a period of depression. Mostly self pity. kept saying we owuld be better off with-o him and he should kill himself. I don't have a lot of patience with that type of thing. never did. I sat him down, told him he had some choices. Get counseling and medication and work through the problems. I would go with him to therapy, would support him going and any changes he needed to make. Or he could just shut up about it and never EVER let me or my kids hear that **** again. If those were not options he liked, he could tell me then and there if he seriously wanted to kill himself. I would go and get a gun and ammunition, load the gun, show him how to do it so that I didn't end up with a vegetable to take care of, and rent a hotel room for him.</p><p></p><p>His choice. I didn't like the last one, but it is HIS life and HIS choice. </p><p></p><p>I scared the **** out of him. It TOTALLY was NOT the sympathy he thought he would get. He did NOT want therapy and medications and he did NOT want a gun and bullets. So I have not EVER heard that from him. If he had just kept up iwth it, and not gotten help or acted on it? The kids and I would have been G.O.N.E. Totally and completely. At that time someone who was threatening suicide around their kids did NOT get anything but supervised visitation, not in the area we lived in. he would have hated that.</p><p></p><p>So call his bluff. If he tries? 911. Heck, offer to show him how to do it the right way, so he won't be left paralyzed or a vegetable. This will shock the daylights out of him in ways I cannot even describe. It is good to shakeup your kids.</p><p></p><p>by the way, the cat? Either needs litter he likes, treatment for a urinary infection, is very old and senile and can't find the litterbox, or needs to be locked in your son's room day and night so he can pee on son's bed and son can be the only one bothered by it. Or list him on craigslist or freecycle or take him to the shelter. Your son needs to be replacing hte furnishings his cat has ruined - at this point ANY cat or dog in your home will pee on those things to mark their territory.</p><p></p><p>If nothing else, when son finally gets his own place, give him the peed upon furnishings and get nice new ones for yourself!</p><p></p><p>Star has an awesome viewpoint and gets it across beautifully, doesn't she??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 465169, member: 1233"] I think you very much need to read How to Parent Your Teen with Love and Logic. It will give you strategies to handle many of his behaviors. Ones that WORK. While he is 24, he is basically a teenager - lives the life of one pretty much except he doesn't do chores or go to school. This book is awesome, and both you and husband will like it. It will give you strength and support and strategies. I have used them. On a difficult child and pcs and my husband. they WORK. the men who wrote the first love and logic book were high school principals and/or counselors. They worked with kids and figured out something that honestly works. The teachers I have given the various books to have seen results the first time they implemented them and they are still seeing results. The drama of the knife? No one in my family tries suicide attempts around me. Ever. My husband went through a period of depression. Mostly self pity. kept saying we owuld be better off with-o him and he should kill himself. I don't have a lot of patience with that type of thing. never did. I sat him down, told him he had some choices. Get counseling and medication and work through the problems. I would go with him to therapy, would support him going and any changes he needed to make. Or he could just shut up about it and never EVER let me or my kids hear that **** again. If those were not options he liked, he could tell me then and there if he seriously wanted to kill himself. I would go and get a gun and ammunition, load the gun, show him how to do it so that I didn't end up with a vegetable to take care of, and rent a hotel room for him. His choice. I didn't like the last one, but it is HIS life and HIS choice. I scared the **** out of him. It TOTALLY was NOT the sympathy he thought he would get. He did NOT want therapy and medications and he did NOT want a gun and bullets. So I have not EVER heard that from him. If he had just kept up iwth it, and not gotten help or acted on it? The kids and I would have been G.O.N.E. Totally and completely. At that time someone who was threatening suicide around their kids did NOT get anything but supervised visitation, not in the area we lived in. he would have hated that. So call his bluff. If he tries? 911. Heck, offer to show him how to do it the right way, so he won't be left paralyzed or a vegetable. This will shock the daylights out of him in ways I cannot even describe. It is good to shakeup your kids. by the way, the cat? Either needs litter he likes, treatment for a urinary infection, is very old and senile and can't find the litterbox, or needs to be locked in your son's room day and night so he can pee on son's bed and son can be the only one bothered by it. Or list him on craigslist or freecycle or take him to the shelter. Your son needs to be replacing hte furnishings his cat has ruined - at this point ANY cat or dog in your home will pee on those things to mark their territory. If nothing else, when son finally gets his own place, give him the peed upon furnishings and get nice new ones for yourself! Star has an awesome viewpoint and gets it across beautifully, doesn't she?? [/QUOTE]
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