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Where is the love? Can't even find that right now!!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="LostMama" data-source="post: 356802"><p>Oh Jody, I don't have the answers as we are struggling right now, too. It is hard work to love someone who is mean and nasty. The only thing that is giving us hope right now is following a program that hubby & I attended a while back. Step one is displaying acts of love & affection every day...even if you don't feel like it. I never realized how out of the habit this had gotten for us. We would allow our anger to prevent our love from showing and our difficult child felt unloved and unlovable. We are making tiny baby steps. The poor behavior is still there but I now have hope and that's a huge thing. If anything, I feel like we are growing as parents and learning ways to cope with the poor behavior.</p><p></p><p>Dealing with our difficult child kind of reminds me of that movie about the failing marriage with Kirk Cameron. Have you seen that? Anyhow, their marriage was on the verge of failure but when he started changing his behavior by doing small things for his wife every day...she started changing, too, and their marriage was saved. </p><p></p><p>I don't mean to simplify things but I am holding onto hope that if we make small changes in how we deal with our difficult child...that our relationship with her will be saved...that she will feel loved and will stop the self-destructive and explosive behavior.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LostMama, post: 356802"] Oh Jody, I don't have the answers as we are struggling right now, too. It is hard work to love someone who is mean and nasty. The only thing that is giving us hope right now is following a program that hubby & I attended a while back. Step one is displaying acts of love & affection every day...even if you don't feel like it. I never realized how out of the habit this had gotten for us. We would allow our anger to prevent our love from showing and our difficult child felt unloved and unlovable. We are making tiny baby steps. The poor behavior is still there but I now have hope and that's a huge thing. If anything, I feel like we are growing as parents and learning ways to cope with the poor behavior. Dealing with our difficult child kind of reminds me of that movie about the failing marriage with Kirk Cameron. Have you seen that? Anyhow, their marriage was on the verge of failure but when he started changing his behavior by doing small things for his wife every day...she started changing, too, and their marriage was saved. I don't mean to simplify things but I am holding onto hope that if we make small changes in how we deal with our difficult child...that our relationship with her will be saved...that she will feel loved and will stop the self-destructive and explosive behavior. [/QUOTE]
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