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Thank you for your Reply and advice.  My husband and I took the Nami course last year.  It is a great resource but did not help much for our situation.  As far as therapy goes,  we have tried to get our son to go again and again, but to no avail.  At this point, he will have to decide to go.  As my sister tells me time and again, it needs to be his decision and it needs to be intrinsic.  So we shall pray he goes at some point.  On a more positive note, my son decided to face his fears and go back to the theatre and as a result, is still in the show.  I hope that he learns from this but often times does not, so will probably happen again.    My biggest issue is codependency emotionally with him and I have been working hard at detatching from his issues and emotional outbursts which are usually directed at me.  The book by Melody Beattie Codependent No More, has been a great resource and my own therapist but it is a long process since I have been the main person responsible for our son's needs for so long.  I also struggle with anxiety but mostly internally which causes me not only mental anguish but stomach problems.  I am getting better at handling things and my husband has taken over more responsibility for dealing with our son.  Lately, when my son starts in on me, I just block him on my phone.  He can call his dad if he needs to.  I am so grateful to have this site and all of your caring replies.  I know that I am not alone and that many of you are dealing with harder things than I.  I pray and send peace to each and every one of you.  It often feels that things will never change, but I believe they can and will eventually.  We must stick together and keep our heads.  Our lives matter!!


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