It has been a while since I posted but feel in need of advice, comfort etc. The past two or three years have been an emotional struggle for me as I try to come to terms with my son's issues and my codependent behavior. I have made strides but it is an ongoing struggle. Anyway, things seemed to be getting a little better for my son as he has been working off and on as well as been involved with a Chinese Lion Dancing troupe. My son has severe ADHD with anxiety and depression. He has received various diagnosi from doctors from Dsythymia, bipolar 2 to Personality disorders cluster B. Not really sure what to think because he refuses treatment. Adamantly! He has been to therapists many times over the years since childhood and does not believe they help. Most medications don't agree with him other than Vyvanse. He also tics when stressed. Anyway, My son has been involved with acting since middle school and he is currently 24. He is currently in a show but just about dropped the ball on it this weekend. He overslept and missed an important rehearsal. Because of his anxiety, he was upset and embarrassed, so being the avoider that he is, did not call in. The theatre, his girlfriend, everyone was calling to find out where he was. He would not answer his phone. My husband went down to his apt. and he finally answered the door , explained what happened ,and said that he wouldn't talk about it. The director, who is a friend, went to his apt to try and get my son to come home with him, but he wouldn't answer the door or phone. Next day, my son finally called to say he was leaving our state and wanted money, then accused me of ruining his life because everybody was calling him and he could not show his face at the theatre. Or could never act again. Like he usually does , he said he wanted to die. He was tired of struggling. He hung up on me a few times. Finally texted me that he had called the director and as far as I know, is still in the show. My husband went down there and took him out for food, because of course, he couldn't be bothered to get or make any food for a couple of days. What scares me is my husband and I are moving to a neighboring state in a few months, something that we have wanted to do for a long time. We are not against our son moving there but not with us. Given our son's severe lack of coping skills and unwillingness to seek help, I am scared to death about what will happen and how we should handle this. We have done everything we can to encourage and support him.