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Which came first-the chicken or the meltdown?
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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 205973" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>Pookybear, I'm sorry you've been having a rough time with DS. Meltdowns are frustrating, for sure, but in my experience they're almost always triggered because our little darlings haven't learned to be flexible and they have a low frustration tolerance.</p><p> </p><p>I think you should go back and take a closer look at The Explosive Child. in my humble opinion, food doesn't belong in Basket A. In our household, it belongs in Basket C. It just isn't worth an hour-long meltdown to me. Is it to you? Especially until you know exactly what you're dealing with in terms of a diagnosis, I would not fight with your son about food choices. The only items in Basket A in our household are going to school, going to therapy and taking medications. The rest falls into Basket B (items we will negotiate) or Basket C (just not worth fighting about). You definitely have to know when to pick your battles.</p><p> </p><p>Now I understand your wanting to cook one meal for everyone. I'm the same way. So I've gotten creative with a few recipes that allow me to put one meal on the table, but give the kids lots of choice in how they eat it. For example, I makes tacos with all the fixings in separate bowls and the kids choose toppings they feel like eating. Or pasta with different toppings (red sauce, cheese or sauteed veggies). It's a little more work in terms of planning and prepping, but worth it in the long run for keeping the peace.</p><p> </p><p>In addition, you should realize that your son probably wasn't melting down about chicken nuggets at all. He was tired and hungry from his afternoon of play and frustrated that you were asking him to do homework. When my kids are hungry after a long day, but I still rushing around getting dinner on the table, I put out a "snack" that would have found its way on to the dinner table anyway (like a fruit salad or veggies and dip). The kids are happy because they're able to take the edge off their intense hunger, and I'm happy because I'm getting healthy food into them and keeping the peace while getting dinner on the table. </p><p> </p><p>Just wanted to give you another way of looking at things. I hope you have a calm weekend.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 205973, member: 2423"] Pookybear, I'm sorry you've been having a rough time with DS. Meltdowns are frustrating, for sure, but in my experience they're almost always triggered because our little darlings haven't learned to be flexible and they have a low frustration tolerance. I think you should go back and take a closer look at The Explosive Child. in my humble opinion, food doesn't belong in Basket A. In our household, it belongs in Basket C. It just isn't worth an hour-long meltdown to me. Is it to you? Especially until you know exactly what you're dealing with in terms of a diagnosis, I would not fight with your son about food choices. The only items in Basket A in our household are going to school, going to therapy and taking medications. The rest falls into Basket B (items we will negotiate) or Basket C (just not worth fighting about). You definitely have to know when to pick your battles. Now I understand your wanting to cook one meal for everyone. I'm the same way. So I've gotten creative with a few recipes that allow me to put one meal on the table, but give the kids lots of choice in how they eat it. For example, I makes tacos with all the fixings in separate bowls and the kids choose toppings they feel like eating. Or pasta with different toppings (red sauce, cheese or sauteed veggies). It's a little more work in terms of planning and prepping, but worth it in the long run for keeping the peace. In addition, you should realize that your son probably wasn't melting down about chicken nuggets at all. He was tired and hungry from his afternoon of play and frustrated that you were asking him to do homework. When my kids are hungry after a long day, but I still rushing around getting dinner on the table, I put out a "snack" that would have found its way on to the dinner table anyway (like a fruit salad or veggies and dip). The kids are happy because they're able to take the edge off their intense hunger, and I'm happy because I'm getting healthy food into them and keeping the peace while getting dinner on the table. Just wanted to give you another way of looking at things. I hope you have a calm weekend. [/QUOTE]
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