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Which came first-the chicken or the meltdown?
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 206134" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Ah, the old Chicken Nugget Meltdown Scenario!!!</p><p> </p><p>Sounds familiar!</p><p> </p><p>I cannot tell you how many times I have stood in front of the stove, making dinner from SCRATCH and difficult child starts screaming at me that he wants something else. that he hates me, I'm mean and the worst mother in the world.</p><p>I tell him 1) That he cannot berate me or he will go to his room. Then I make him calm down by standing there quietly. (Actually, it's shades of The Manipulative Child, "stop, pause, redirect," but I didn't know that until after I read it. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> )</p><p>2) That he is welcome to eat his food of choice AFTER he eats whatever I have cooked. Sometimes he'll even take things out of the fridge and cupboard and get them ready for his "real" meal.</p><p>9 times out of 10, he is too full after my meal to make his preferred meal. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p> </p><p>The idea is to initially agree with-them, to diffuse the anger, and then find a way around it. </p><p>Maybe it's to give your difficult child a snack in the meantime so he won't be hungry while you're cooking. </p><p> </p><p>I've had my difficult child scream at me that he doesn't want the snack, either. So I've learned to put it next to him and walk away. There's something about walking away that works like magic with-him.</p><p> </p><p>Nice that you could resolve the grocery store issue with-a pudding compromise. Yay!</p><p>I know how that feels. been there done that.</p><p> </p><p>Best of luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 206134, member: 3419"] Ah, the old Chicken Nugget Meltdown Scenario!!! Sounds familiar! I cannot tell you how many times I have stood in front of the stove, making dinner from SCRATCH and difficult child starts screaming at me that he wants something else. that he hates me, I'm mean and the worst mother in the world. I tell him 1) That he cannot berate me or he will go to his room. Then I make him calm down by standing there quietly. (Actually, it's shades of The Manipulative Child, "stop, pause, redirect," but I didn't know that until after I read it. :) ) 2) That he is welcome to eat his food of choice AFTER he eats whatever I have cooked. Sometimes he'll even take things out of the fridge and cupboard and get them ready for his "real" meal. 9 times out of 10, he is too full after my meal to make his preferred meal. :) :) :) The idea is to initially agree with-them, to diffuse the anger, and then find a way around it. Maybe it's to give your difficult child a snack in the meantime so he won't be hungry while you're cooking. I've had my difficult child scream at me that he doesn't want the snack, either. So I've learned to put it next to him and walk away. There's something about walking away that works like magic with-him. Nice that you could resolve the grocery store issue with-a pudding compromise. Yay! I know how that feels. been there done that. Best of luck. [/QUOTE]
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