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Which came first-the chicken or the meltdown?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mayapple5" data-source="post: 207005" data-attributes="member: 6223"><p>You can't blame yourself. I have learned the hard way, too. I homeschooled our two beautiful girls now 20 and 18, for 12 years, all through school. They have been raised in a Bible believing church and home where we say prayer before every meal and read Bible stories and have family time. We don't watch TV, we watch family oriented movies, violence is kept out of the home. Oh, we know about the world and all the things of the world. They have friends and have throughout their lives, plenty of them, all kinds of them, which we have monitored!</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>He sister and her were inseperable, but then...well let me back up..</p><p> </p><p>The oldest went one year to Bob Jones University studying Accounting last year. South Carolina is a long way from Illinois! It was good for her. Then she met a boy here. Not who we felt God wanted for her. She didn't go back to school. this boy met the younger sister first, then when the older one came home from school, he saw her behind the other's back. My girls will never, ever be the same again. They will never have the relationship they had, the trust, the laughter and sharing is gone. It makes me sick and oh so sad <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" />. There is no trust any more between them. The older one forsook God for a while and went her own way, moved out to her bio mother's home (my oldest daughter) and became pregnant, lost the baby and had finally found her way back and wants to do things the right way. I cried the whole time. She has moved home and still wants this young man and wants to marry him, I can't change their minds, but I pray God can and will.</p><p> </p><p>I found out I am not at fault for all that has happened, it wasn't my parenting, or my husband's. It was nothing we did that caused her to quit school, to get pregnant, she knew the consequences of her actions. At some point in their lives they have to take responsibility for themselves. We have to take care of ourselves. We have to be healthy in mind and body and ready for them when they come to us for help, for advise, no matter what that may be, whether they are ready to hear what we have to say or not!</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry if this has gotten long but I'm passionate about this as it is so fresh and it was so painful. I hope I can help others who have gone through what we went through. I know we can't get too religious here. But you can pm me and I can go through more with you if you would like.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mayapple5, post: 207005, member: 6223"] You can't blame yourself. I have learned the hard way, too. I homeschooled our two beautiful girls now 20 and 18, for 12 years, all through school. They have been raised in a Bible believing church and home where we say prayer before every meal and read Bible stories and have family time. We don't watch TV, we watch family oriented movies, violence is kept out of the home. Oh, we know about the world and all the things of the world. They have friends and have throughout their lives, plenty of them, all kinds of them, which we have monitored! He sister and her were inseperable, but then...well let me back up.. The oldest went one year to Bob Jones University studying Accounting last year. South Carolina is a long way from Illinois! It was good for her. Then she met a boy here. Not who we felt God wanted for her. She didn't go back to school. this boy met the younger sister first, then when the older one came home from school, he saw her behind the other's back. My girls will never, ever be the same again. They will never have the relationship they had, the trust, the laughter and sharing is gone. It makes me sick and oh so sad :sad-very:. There is no trust any more between them. The older one forsook God for a while and went her own way, moved out to her bio mother's home (my oldest daughter) and became pregnant, lost the baby and had finally found her way back and wants to do things the right way. I cried the whole time. She has moved home and still wants this young man and wants to marry him, I can't change their minds, but I pray God can and will. I found out I am not at fault for all that has happened, it wasn't my parenting, or my husband's. It was nothing we did that caused her to quit school, to get pregnant, she knew the consequences of her actions. At some point in their lives they have to take responsibility for themselves. We have to take care of ourselves. We have to be healthy in mind and body and ready for them when they come to us for help, for advise, no matter what that may be, whether they are ready to hear what we have to say or not! I'm sorry if this has gotten long but I'm passionate about this as it is so fresh and it was so painful. I hope I can help others who have gone through what we went through. I know we can't get too religious here. But you can pm me and I can go through more with you if you would like. [/QUOTE]
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