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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 83039" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>Immediately following my separation from exh I felt lighter of heart, mind and spirit. I really just enjoyed having my tiny room and my own space, reading and snuggling up with my girls at the end of the day and being able to make my own decisions about our future. I enjoyed not feeling the dread of spending another boring evening with exh, watching him clean his pot, roll a joint and then fall asleep with the day's dirts still clinging to his sticky, dusty skin. I didn't miss the meals I had to cook; I was able to experiment with different foods and textures, spice things up a bit.</p><p></p><p>I did, however, mourn the loss of what our marriage was supposed to be and how were supposed to live out our lives. Part of me still does, for my girls' sakes. However, I did learn to fill my time doing things that brought me calm and peace, like walking on the beach and collecting interesting rocks. I also would pack a dinner and once a week the girls and I would have a picnic dinner on the beach (in warm months). I got back into my drawing a little again. I read like a maniac - any book I could get my hands on. And I learned how to be alone without being lonely...one the most difficult things to learn in my opinion. </p><p></p><p>Eventually, my life blossomed into how I wanted it to be, my girls were happy, I was dating current H and life went on. I think talking it over with a counselor is awesome - feeling out how others have fared is great too. Perhaps keeping a journal and making a list of things you enjoy or have talents in will help you to find a new direction just for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 83039, member: 2211"] Immediately following my separation from exh I felt lighter of heart, mind and spirit. I really just enjoyed having my tiny room and my own space, reading and snuggling up with my girls at the end of the day and being able to make my own decisions about our future. I enjoyed not feeling the dread of spending another boring evening with exh, watching him clean his pot, roll a joint and then fall asleep with the day's dirts still clinging to his sticky, dusty skin. I didn't miss the meals I had to cook; I was able to experiment with different foods and textures, spice things up a bit. I did, however, mourn the loss of what our marriage was supposed to be and how were supposed to live out our lives. Part of me still does, for my girls' sakes. However, I did learn to fill my time doing things that brought me calm and peace, like walking on the beach and collecting interesting rocks. I also would pack a dinner and once a week the girls and I would have a picnic dinner on the beach (in warm months). I got back into my drawing a little again. I read like a maniac - any book I could get my hands on. And I learned how to be alone without being lonely...one the most difficult things to learn in my opinion. Eventually, my life blossomed into how I wanted it to be, my girls were happy, I was dating current H and life went on. I think talking it over with a counselor is awesome - feeling out how others have fared is great too. Perhaps keeping a journal and making a list of things you enjoy or have talents in will help you to find a new direction just for you. [/QUOTE]
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