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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 83092" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>him in the driveway as I was leaving for work and his eyes were red, he looked beat and was very short with me, like he was mad at me for something????? This of course influenced my mood right away and I started feeling sorry for him. Why do I do that.</p><p></p><p>Why? Because you've done it for so long. And you haven't come to the part in your therapy where you start working on the "whys" what you concentrate on first are the "hows" and then the "whys" will answer themselves for you. </p><p></p><p>Don't expect so much out of yourself. I (laughingly) used to be so naive that I believed once he was out of my life or I was away from him I wouldn't have any problems. Truth was, I had problems when I met and agreed to marry him. OTHERWISE I wouldn't have done it. Therapy teaches you how to not "done it again". </p><p></p><p>And...fact remains that you are a wonderful, caring, kind, sensitive, person who is human, will feel emotions and this separation in your "subconscience" may be telling you that you somehow failed. In part, yes...but you didn't fail him. You failed to see what you couldn't see because if you could have seen it you would see it now. See? </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 83092, member: 4964"] him in the driveway as I was leaving for work and his eyes were red, he looked beat and was very short with me, like he was mad at me for something????? This of course influenced my mood right away and I started feeling sorry for him. Why do I do that. Why? Because you've done it for so long. And you haven't come to the part in your therapy where you start working on the "whys" what you concentrate on first are the "hows" and then the "whys" will answer themselves for you. Don't expect so much out of yourself. I (laughingly) used to be so naive that I believed once he was out of my life or I was away from him I wouldn't have any problems. Truth was, I had problems when I met and agreed to marry him. OTHERWISE I wouldn't have done it. Therapy teaches you how to not "done it again". And...fact remains that you are a wonderful, caring, kind, sensitive, person who is human, will feel emotions and this separation in your "subconscience" may be telling you that you somehow failed. In part, yes...but you didn't fail him. You failed to see what you couldn't see because if you could have seen it you would see it now. See? Hugs [/QUOTE]
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