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<blockquote data-quote="skeeter" data-source="post: 83160" data-attributes="member: 439"><p>I was married for 16 years, but the marriage was over long before I filed for divorce. Yep - I was doing the "stay with it for the kids sake". Lots of reasons the marriage was over, but I had done a lot of it "by myself" anyway, what with his traveling for work, his "hobbies" of hunting, shooting, etc. and him always having some reason to not do things with us as a family.</p><p></p><p>Sure, there was those few moments of sadness of what could have been - but honestly, what SHOULD have been was long gone anyway, so I really had no regrets. I had peace. I had stability (he had 8 jobs in those 16 years).</p><p></p><p>After the divorce, both kids, separately, have asked me why I stayed married for so long. Once I wasn't running interference for their father, they got to see him as he really "is". While they still love him, and try to do things with him, it's sad that they confide in me much more. My oldest even gave his stepdad a father's day card that said "thank you for being the things my dad can't or won't be".</p><p></p><p>I knew my now husband before I was divorced, and we had done some group things together (we met because of the musical instrument we both play). Our communicating just led one thing to another and we realized how alike we were. We both realized we ARE each other's sole mate - we just 20 years too late (I tease it's HIS fault!). We married less than a year after my divorce, but we didn't see the point in waiting because others might think we should. We're going on 7 years now, and we're even more happy than when we first married.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="skeeter, post: 83160, member: 439"] I was married for 16 years, but the marriage was over long before I filed for divorce. Yep - I was doing the "stay with it for the kids sake". Lots of reasons the marriage was over, but I had done a lot of it "by myself" anyway, what with his traveling for work, his "hobbies" of hunting, shooting, etc. and him always having some reason to not do things with us as a family. Sure, there was those few moments of sadness of what could have been - but honestly, what SHOULD have been was long gone anyway, so I really had no regrets. I had peace. I had stability (he had 8 jobs in those 16 years). After the divorce, both kids, separately, have asked me why I stayed married for so long. Once I wasn't running interference for their father, they got to see him as he really "is". While they still love him, and try to do things with him, it's sad that they confide in me much more. My oldest even gave his stepdad a father's day card that said "thank you for being the things my dad can't or won't be". I knew my now husband before I was divorced, and we had done some group things together (we met because of the musical instrument we both play). Our communicating just led one thing to another and we realized how alike we were. We both realized we ARE each other's sole mate - we just 20 years too late (I tease it's HIS fault!). We married less than a year after my divorce, but we didn't see the point in waiting because others might think we should. We're going on 7 years now, and we're even more happy than when we first married. [/QUOTE]
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