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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 83680" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>Well, I do not think you thought you would find someone that regretted their decision to end a long term relationship. There is always a reason good enough to endure that pain. </p><p></p><p>I do believe there are moments of regret and wondering 'what if' with the end of any relationship - married or not. </p><p></p><p>I recommend you stop thinking about the relationship you are currently in limbo with. Just pretend it is over and start finding yourself now. Perhaps things will just become clearer to you then. Maybe husband will not be patient at all and then there is no deciding. But, I think you will know if that happens he is not the one for you to spend the rest of your days with. </p><p></p><p>I think if he wants the relationship to work he can certainly accept that you need some time to figure things out since he is the one that stepped out of the marriage vows.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I will share a thought for you to ponder. </p><p></p><p>We seem to seek out that which we lack. If we lack money we want more and tend to gear our lives towards getting more money. If it is sex we lack we figure out a way to get that. Once we get one thing it moves down on our priority list and something else moves up. Something we are lacking. As we satisfy one desire another one pops up. Once we get the sex, we want more attention. Once we get the attention we want more affection, etc. I think it is natural. Not necessarily bad, but can get out of control. </p><p></p><p>So, figure out what things you are lacking and what order they should be in at this time of your life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 83680, member: 391"] Well, I do not think you thought you would find someone that regretted their decision to end a long term relationship. There is always a reason good enough to endure that pain. I do believe there are moments of regret and wondering 'what if' with the end of any relationship - married or not. I recommend you stop thinking about the relationship you are currently in limbo with. Just pretend it is over and start finding yourself now. Perhaps things will just become clearer to you then. Maybe husband will not be patient at all and then there is no deciding. But, I think you will know if that happens he is not the one for you to spend the rest of your days with. I think if he wants the relationship to work he can certainly accept that you need some time to figure things out since he is the one that stepped out of the marriage vows. I will share a thought for you to ponder. We seem to seek out that which we lack. If we lack money we want more and tend to gear our lives towards getting more money. If it is sex we lack we figure out a way to get that. Once we get one thing it moves down on our priority list and something else moves up. Something we are lacking. As we satisfy one desire another one pops up. Once we get the sex, we want more attention. Once we get the attention we want more affection, etc. I think it is natural. Not necessarily bad, but can get out of control. So, figure out what things you are lacking and what order they should be in at this time of your life. [/QUOTE]
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