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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 225021" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Heather is right. You did not give her the answer she wants. She needs to learn that it is o.k. to let her roommate face up to his own problems.</p><p></p><p>I think my easy child's friends feel that she will always use us, her parents, to bail her out so if they can make their problems her problems, maybe we will foot the bill? WRONG! </p><p></p><p>It is a very hard lesson for our kind hearted children to learn. It is just as important for them to allow their friends to live up to their responsibilities as it is for us to allow our difficult child's to live up to responsibilities.</p><p></p><p>Your difficult child can not sacrifice her financial well being (or yours) to save someone else. Why should that person live in luxury while your easy child pays the price?</p><p></p><p>You did a good thing. I do know it is hard though. To knowingly give an answer that will cause your child more emotional grief yet to know it is for her best interest.</p><p></p><p>You are a great warrior mom. Your hurting heart is the best evidence. If you didn't care and didn't try, your heart wouldn't break so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 225021, member: 5096"] Heather is right. You did not give her the answer she wants. She needs to learn that it is o.k. to let her roommate face up to his own problems. I think my easy child's friends feel that she will always use us, her parents, to bail her out so if they can make their problems her problems, maybe we will foot the bill? WRONG! It is a very hard lesson for our kind hearted children to learn. It is just as important for them to allow their friends to live up to their responsibilities as it is for us to allow our difficult child's to live up to responsibilities. Your difficult child can not sacrifice her financial well being (or yours) to save someone else. Why should that person live in luxury while your easy child pays the price? You did a good thing. I do know it is hard though. To knowingly give an answer that will cause your child more emotional grief yet to know it is for her best interest. You are a great warrior mom. Your hurting heart is the best evidence. If you didn't care and didn't try, your heart wouldn't break so much. [/QUOTE]
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