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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 225586" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>You're right, I should have hung up on her and I don't why I didn't. I usually do when she gets on a tirade like that. I guess I was happy that she needed my advice. That's not something she's ever said to me before. I don't know. Stupidity in action, I guess.</p><p> </p><p>As to her not moving in, that's really not an option. She has changed. Not as much as I would like but there is change. Regardless, I can't let her drift from place to place because she has no money for an apartment on her own right now. The plan is she will save her money, buy a car and move out. This will probably take a year and it won't be an easy year but at least there are real goals on her part. She will pay rent. She will help around the house with some nagging by me. She will do what is needed when I complain enough. I just don't want it but I know I can't live with the alternatives.</p><p> </p><p>There will be set rules and if they broken she will be out the door that very second. She is very aware of that and she won't break those rules. It's the little things that will drive me crazy. She'll be good about the no theft, no violence, paying her share of the rent stuff.</p><p> </p><p>I wish she could get some help through social services but she qualifies for nothing. I had to fight tooth and nail to get any assistance when she was younger from adoption services. Now that she's an adult, they've totally washed their hands of her. She's in that class of people not mentally ill enough for assistance but not stable enough to live on her own as a constructive adult. Sometimes things really do stink!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 225586, member: 3626"] You're right, I should have hung up on her and I don't why I didn't. I usually do when she gets on a tirade like that. I guess I was happy that she needed my advice. That's not something she's ever said to me before. I don't know. Stupidity in action, I guess. As to her not moving in, that's really not an option. She has changed. Not as much as I would like but there is change. Regardless, I can't let her drift from place to place because she has no money for an apartment on her own right now. The plan is she will save her money, buy a car and move out. This will probably take a year and it won't be an easy year but at least there are real goals on her part. She will pay rent. She will help around the house with some nagging by me. She will do what is needed when I complain enough. I just don't want it but I know I can't live with the alternatives. There will be set rules and if they broken she will be out the door that very second. She is very aware of that and she won't break those rules. It's the little things that will drive me crazy. She'll be good about the no theft, no violence, paying her share of the rent stuff. I wish she could get some help through social services but she qualifies for nothing. I had to fight tooth and nail to get any assistance when she was younger from adoption services. Now that she's an adult, they've totally washed their hands of her. She's in that class of people not mentally ill enough for assistance but not stable enough to live on her own as a constructive adult. Sometimes things really do stink! [/QUOTE]
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