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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 312993" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Thanks all. I am past the letter writing and calm talk stage. I have already tried that several times.</p><p></p><p>He sits and worries about things and doesn't DO anything while he worries. Then he is exhausted and mad at himself because he didn't get anything done. I hate to do it, but I always end up kicking his tail and telling him to stop thinking and start doing. </p><p></p><p>Calm talks lead him to nod and agree and say he will do x and y and z. Then he leaves the table/room and it all runs out his ears. So nothing changes.</p><p></p><p>He doesn't make dinner for Jess because there are no frozen burritos that she likes. She also doesn't like corn dogs. I have kept certain things on the list so that she can heat up soup or fix a sandwich at any time. I also often fix sandwiches and carrots, or leftovers or whatever I can when husband is on a burrito kick. </p><p></p><p>Part of the problem with his potatoes or huge thing of rice is that he eats so MUCH and usually 2-3 hours AFTER dinner is fixed/eaten. He pours a ton of melted butter and about a cup of grated cheese on top of sliced cheese and jalapenos on his potato. Then night time is a real problem, if you Know what I mean?. </p><p></p><p>It makes Jess and I feel like we did a bad job with a meal when he goes and does that. Very demoralizing. </p><p></p><p>I will end up kicking his tail until he gets his act together. Again. maybe it will help me get my stuff together more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 312993, member: 1233"] Thanks all. I am past the letter writing and calm talk stage. I have already tried that several times. He sits and worries about things and doesn't DO anything while he worries. Then he is exhausted and mad at himself because he didn't get anything done. I hate to do it, but I always end up kicking his tail and telling him to stop thinking and start doing. Calm talks lead him to nod and agree and say he will do x and y and z. Then he leaves the table/room and it all runs out his ears. So nothing changes. He doesn't make dinner for Jess because there are no frozen burritos that she likes. She also doesn't like corn dogs. I have kept certain things on the list so that she can heat up soup or fix a sandwich at any time. I also often fix sandwiches and carrots, or leftovers or whatever I can when husband is on a burrito kick. Part of the problem with his potatoes or huge thing of rice is that he eats so MUCH and usually 2-3 hours AFTER dinner is fixed/eaten. He pours a ton of melted butter and about a cup of grated cheese on top of sliced cheese and jalapenos on his potato. Then night time is a real problem, if you Know what I mean?. It makes Jess and I feel like we did a bad job with a meal when he goes and does that. Very demoralizing. I will end up kicking his tail until he gets his act together. Again. maybe it will help me get my stuff together more. [/QUOTE]
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