southernmomma
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This past weekend has been a nightmare to say the least. On Wednesday morning, I found out that my husbands uncle passed away unexpecdidly and we were to be at his funeral on Friday. I set to work trying to get things organized and reserved. The funeral was at Nags Head, NC so finding a hotel at a reasonable price was pretty much not going to happen. I had to explain to my son (still not 100% sure on diagnosis but prelim was ODD) that we had to go on a mini-vacation so Daddy could see his family. I wasn't sure how to explain to him that someone had died. He's only three-after all. Anyway, long story short, we got to the beach and things went down hill real fast. He wanted to do everything, didn't want to sit still. this was understandable since it was his first time at the beach and it was a new terratory for him. I let some of the behavior slide because it WAS new for him and i knew some of it was excitment. But then he started yelling and everything that he does at home rared it's ugly face in public. There were several times he took off out the door and I had to chase him down. I punished him as I do at home but he was immune to it, or so it seemed. He would hit me, punch walls, etc. We tried to do things with them so they would enjoy it, but my husband had to be at the viewing, funeral, and wake most of the day on Friday so I was left alone in a hotel room with them both. He even tried to get out of the sliding glass doors to "jump into the pool" we were on a 2nd story room. My husband called and informed me that he was going to come get us so we could go to the wake as a family. I told him I did'nt think it was a good idea due to his behavior. He (my husband) got mad becuase I didn't want to take our son to the wake. Was I wrong in that? His whole famliy was upset at me because it seemed like I Had just come down for a vaction, not to be with family. That was totally NOT my intention but I did'nt feel that it was a good idea to take my son in such a delicate situation. What happens if he breaks something of the decesaed or ruined something in the house (this is a NICE....i'm talking BIG MONEY house). Or worse.....started telling people he was going to "kill" them. This has just started in the last week or so. I can't bring my kid into something like that and have him act like that. Now my Mother in law is mad at both me and my husband and thinks I 'overreacted' even though she's seen first hand the behavior he's exibiting. We go tomorrow for a first therapy session and this dr. is suppose to be able to refer me to a neuropsychologist. This is a 2nd opionion from the first diagnosis. A good dr, but $$$$$$$$. So may be he knows what he's talking about. ANyway, that was my nightmare of the weekend. Thanks for listening.