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Why did I think this time would be different? Restraining order ready to go...
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<blockquote data-quote="VickiL" data-source="post: 142255" data-attributes="member: 93"><p>Thank you to all of you! I am doing so-so today. Yesterday was more "drama central" out in good ol' CA and I just feel sorry that I placed my Mom in the middle of it since she is living at my sister's house since the two of them cannot be trusted to be there alone. </p><p></p><p>They both are abusing each other and I basically told my mom to just call the cops the next time it happens and let one or both of them go to jail. It's what Justin is begging to have happen anyway. ): The baby needs to be placed in foster care and taken away from both of them. Justin was supposed to start a part-time job today, but doubt he will. They have no money at all and the only thing my mom is paying for right now is Kyla's formula. </p><p></p><p>I had read and re-read Detachment 101 and the Letting Go steps. Saying the Serenity prayer almost constantly. I refuse to let them treat me with any more disrepect. If I am such a horrible, cruel b**** that Ashley has convinced Justin that I am, they both can kiss my hiney. I really am so done with them. It will only be a matter of time before my family in CA is completely done with them, too. Justin knows that this is the last chance he gets with my family. He screwed up one other chance two years ago.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and if all that's gone on wasn't enough, I have heard that she might be pregnant again! I really wish he would just wake up and leave her, but that isn't gonna happen, not with Kyla in the picture and not yet. </p><p></p><p>Sharonj, you have found a wonderful group of people, a lot that have been or are going through what you are. I think I may be too harsh in what I believe you should do with your daughter. I'm learning that threats are not a good way to get me to be on your side and support your decisions. And I have thrown Justin out of my house for over a year when he was 18 just for that. He lived on the streets for that year and seemed like he was actually "getting it" up until a couple of months ago. Gee, right about the time his daughter was born...</p><p></p><p>He needs to get help for his anger and depression and I told my mom to just take him to the free clinic to get some kind of help. My sister is a nurse and should be able to better tell her what he might need than I can. I just wish I could close my eyes and make this all go away. If my mom and sister weren't involved I truly believe I could. Even with the baby involved. But I'm very protective when it comes to my mom and sister. </p><p></p><p>husband said last night that hindsight is 20-20 and if we could have possibly known how this all was going to go out there we should have just let them stay in MO and duke it out here and not involve my family. </p><p></p><p>I am such a horrible mother for trying to give them a chance at a good life with their daughter...I should be so ashamed of myself<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/wink.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":wink:" title="wink :wink:" data-shortname=":wink:" /></p><p></p><p>Thanks again for being here for me...may need more support in the coming days and weeks, but I am feeling better and stronger everyday.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="VickiL, post: 142255, member: 93"] Thank you to all of you! I am doing so-so today. Yesterday was more "drama central" out in good ol' CA and I just feel sorry that I placed my Mom in the middle of it since she is living at my sister's house since the two of them cannot be trusted to be there alone. They both are abusing each other and I basically told my mom to just call the cops the next time it happens and let one or both of them go to jail. It's what Justin is begging to have happen anyway. ): The baby needs to be placed in foster care and taken away from both of them. Justin was supposed to start a part-time job today, but doubt he will. They have no money at all and the only thing my mom is paying for right now is Kyla's formula. I had read and re-read Detachment 101 and the Letting Go steps. Saying the Serenity prayer almost constantly. I refuse to let them treat me with any more disrepect. If I am such a horrible, cruel b**** that Ashley has convinced Justin that I am, they both can kiss my hiney. I really am so done with them. It will only be a matter of time before my family in CA is completely done with them, too. Justin knows that this is the last chance he gets with my family. He screwed up one other chance two years ago. Oh, and if all that's gone on wasn't enough, I have heard that she might be pregnant again! I really wish he would just wake up and leave her, but that isn't gonna happen, not with Kyla in the picture and not yet. Sharonj, you have found a wonderful group of people, a lot that have been or are going through what you are. I think I may be too harsh in what I believe you should do with your daughter. I'm learning that threats are not a good way to get me to be on your side and support your decisions. And I have thrown Justin out of my house for over a year when he was 18 just for that. He lived on the streets for that year and seemed like he was actually "getting it" up until a couple of months ago. Gee, right about the time his daughter was born... He needs to get help for his anger and depression and I told my mom to just take him to the free clinic to get some kind of help. My sister is a nurse and should be able to better tell her what he might need than I can. I just wish I could close my eyes and make this all go away. If my mom and sister weren't involved I truly believe I could. Even with the baby involved. But I'm very protective when it comes to my mom and sister. husband said last night that hindsight is 20-20 and if we could have possibly known how this all was going to go out there we should have just let them stay in MO and duke it out here and not involve my family. I am such a horrible mother for trying to give them a chance at a good life with their daughter...I should be so ashamed of myself:wink: Thanks again for being here for me...may need more support in the coming days and weeks, but I am feeling better and stronger everyday. [/QUOTE]
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