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<blockquote data-quote="mog" data-source="post: 284165" data-attributes="member: 1803"><p>Wow, your right that's hard to swallow. I didn't always allow people to do that to me. I was in a very abusive relationship right out of college and did not even see things like that now. husband is always complaining how difficult child is treating me but he treats me bad too. I don;t always do that sometimes I do tell the kids that he is acting up and to just ignore him and if he wants to eat or participate in whatever we are doing he will have to "man up" in order to do things with us(not in those words).</p><p> I think that now I am trying so hard to keep the peace because I don't have much time left with easy child since she is leaving for college (sad and happy) and difficult child is all we have left at home but I know that husband doesn't like the way that difficult child treats me but he doesn't treat me any better. I have always had to be the bad guy while they were growing up. WE got "his" kids at age 5and 6 and thought I had raised a nice little family until his bio kids starting acting up. They did sooooo much damage to our marriage and now I am the only one trying to fix our family. So much of what you said happened to me at one time in one way or another. </p><p>Every one of difficult child's therapists has told us that we need marriage counseling but he will not go --we have an mst now but he walks out of session any time he soen't like what is being said but I am really tired of being bashed by so many people that i am ready to give up. OHHH it took husband six years to convince me to marry him even though we had gotten custody of "his" kids and were all living together and another two to convince me to give u[ the house I had to buy a house together so that all of the kids would have there own rooms (not that they appreaciated it) because I had been screwed over before with husband 1 and DH2 and was not willing to put myself on the line again--so now all these years later, his kids are gone , mine are here and he acts like he wants out BUT says he doesn't. Sorry took the side train. </p><p>Thanks for the hard to accept truth!!! Now what?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mog, post: 284165, member: 1803"] Wow, your right that's hard to swallow. I didn't always allow people to do that to me. I was in a very abusive relationship right out of college and did not even see things like that now. husband is always complaining how difficult child is treating me but he treats me bad too. I don;t always do that sometimes I do tell the kids that he is acting up and to just ignore him and if he wants to eat or participate in whatever we are doing he will have to "man up" in order to do things with us(not in those words). I think that now I am trying so hard to keep the peace because I don't have much time left with easy child since she is leaving for college (sad and happy) and difficult child is all we have left at home but I know that husband doesn't like the way that difficult child treats me but he doesn't treat me any better. I have always had to be the bad guy while they were growing up. WE got "his" kids at age 5and 6 and thought I had raised a nice little family until his bio kids starting acting up. They did sooooo much damage to our marriage and now I am the only one trying to fix our family. So much of what you said happened to me at one time in one way or another. Every one of difficult child's therapists has told us that we need marriage counseling but he will not go --we have an mst now but he walks out of session any time he soen't like what is being said but I am really tired of being bashed by so many people that i am ready to give up. OHHH it took husband six years to convince me to marry him even though we had gotten custody of "his" kids and were all living together and another two to convince me to give u[ the house I had to buy a house together so that all of the kids would have there own rooms (not that they appreaciated it) because I had been screwed over before with husband 1 and DH2 and was not willing to put myself on the line again--so now all these years later, his kids are gone , mine are here and he acts like he wants out BUT says he doesn't. Sorry took the side train. Thanks for the hard to accept truth!!! Now what? [/QUOTE]
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