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Why does my son refuse to seek help?
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 717637" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Welcome AM, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. </p><p></p><p>First, as Stillstanding suggested, please change your profile picture. It's best to be as anonymous as possible. </p><p></p><p>Your story is a familiar one. I and many others here know the heartache you are going through. Until your son truly wants help there is nothing you can do for him. It doesn't matter how much money we give them, or places to stay, until they truly want to change nothing will change for them. At this point with your other son moving into a new space, I suggest you gather phone numbers and addresses of shelters and places that your son could receive help at. I caution you against letting him move into your home for many reasons but the main reason is you do not want to continue to enable him. The more we "DO" for our difficult adult children the less they will do for themselves and we actually do more harm than good.</p><p></p><p>Please read this article on detachment. There are some very good ideas about how to do this.</p><p>Please know that detachment does not mean that we don't love them, it just means we are stepping away from their chaos and drama. Here's the link to the article.</p><p></p><p><a href="https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/" target="_blank">Article on Detachment</a></p><p></p><p>Keep posting and let us know how things are going for you, we care.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 717637, member: 18516"] Welcome AM, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. First, as Stillstanding suggested, please change your profile picture. It's best to be as anonymous as possible. Your story is a familiar one. I and many others here know the heartache you are going through. Until your son truly wants help there is nothing you can do for him. It doesn't matter how much money we give them, or places to stay, until they truly want to change nothing will change for them. At this point with your other son moving into a new space, I suggest you gather phone numbers and addresses of shelters and places that your son could receive help at. I caution you against letting him move into your home for many reasons but the main reason is you do not want to continue to enable him. The more we "DO" for our difficult adult children the less they will do for themselves and we actually do more harm than good. Please read this article on detachment. There are some very good ideas about how to do this. Please know that detachment does not mean that we don't love them, it just means we are stepping away from their chaos and drama. Here's the link to the article. [URL="https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/"]Article on Detachment[/URL] Keep posting and let us know how things are going for you, we care. ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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