My youngest son turned 27 yesterday. While I am so thankful he is here another year, the past 2 have been incredibly difficult. My son has always been an introvert (in my mind) very quiet, an observer. Never had many friends through school. Many of his personality traits he shares with my ex husband. Which is why he's my ex. He moved with myself and his older brother to upstate NY in 2006 where we became a blended family with my new husband. He was a Junior in HS at the time. He did meet a girl and dated her for a while, but she stood him up for Prom and broke up with him. This is kind of where I saw things start to turn for him. He lost weight and.became depressed, got mad when Id try to talk to him, stopped doing things he enjoyed. He worked with my husband and I and we saw a big change...this lasted for about 4 months and he finally started to come around. And I began to worry less. He has always been sweet, funny, respectful, resourseful, neat and responsible. Clean cut. Smart. Kind. We went about our lives and he seemed like his old self. But something was different, he seemed to anger easily, became hard to talk too as he became very negative and cynical. Started taking everything so personally and felt like he had bad luck with everything. Most of the stuff he complained about were normal things , like flat tires. Lost cell phones, bad customer service etc. But he would always blow everything so out of proportion and would hang on to things for you days and weeks. 3 years ago. His older brother by 2 yrs moved to FL with his girlfriend. My youngest has always had some issues with his brother...they were very close..but very different in personality. My oldest looks different, acts different. Is popular and had no issue meeting people or making friends. He's a lot like me. But after he (R) moved...things got worse again for A. He became very depressed. Almost Despondent. Other people noticed too. Id try to talk to him and he'd cry and tell me that "noone understood him" and that he had been "depressed his whole life. "Had never been happy" . When I asked if he was suicidal, he said "he couldn't make any promises" I was beside myself with worry and tried to get him to see a doctor or psychiatrist. He refused saying "noone could help him". I had my own issues with anxiety and depression in my 20's and I could not understand...can't understand...not wanting to feel better! My oldest son R and his girlfriend broke up and he needed a room mate in Florida, we all decided the change of scenery and being with his brother would be good for A and after a couple weeks of persuasion he agreed. He left with 30k in savings, his car and we shipped his belongings in November of 2015. Things were great for a couple months. But he and his brother started arguing about girls coming to the apt ( my older sons friends) and stupid things like cleaning...he started to withdraw, wasnt looking for a job, he spent hours playing video games, and trying to meet girls online. Failing time and time again ...he started having angry outbursts, and became more and more withdrawn and depressed. I talked to him almost daily and was beside myself with fear and worry. My sister and brother in law live nearby and my sister is a Nurse Practitioner. She agreed to help me do an intervention of sorts in January. We finally got A to get in a car and go to a local treatment center, but 30 minutes after intake, they came out and told me they couldnt keep him because he didn't want to be there. They said he was hostile and clearly seemed depressed but even the texts I showed them where he stated "he hated his life and wished he had never been born" ad that he was " done with everything " werent enough to keep him. Fast forward to this week. He has about 2000 left of his savings, no job, says he hates his brother, complains constantly that noone "gives a s#/^ about him"(so wrong!) And I believe now that Im dealing with a bi polar depressed individual that is just giving up. He rarely leaves the apt or his room. Yesterday was his birthday...and while I can see that he does try...he struggles to maintain contact and interaction with me and other family...he ended the evening standing in the parking lot of their apt in tears. Im so scared for him. Ive tried all I know to help him. Their lease is up in November and his brother R is getting his own place because he cant live around A anymore and I dont blame him. A told me last night all he's ever wanted was "to he happy" but he doesnt think its even possible anymore. And 6 months ago...he started drinking daily. Which of course doesn't help anything and only makes things worse. He says "it makes him feel better and if it werent for the alcohol he's not sure what he would/could do". Ive read articles, researched and I still have no answers...Im devastated for him and I dont know what to do anymore. ....I moved to Florida in july of last year (it was in the works) but the anxiety of being so far away was too much for me. ....2 years later he's no closer to happiness, a job or mental stability. Is there anything I can do?