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Why is every possible "happy time" ruined?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 716084" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Go on your vacation. It isn't your daughter preventing you from going, it is your guilt and sense of responsibility. </p><p></p><p>Choose YOU. Choose life. Choose joy. </p><p></p><p>A number of years ago I was on my way to Kauai with my husband. Right before we left, my daughter became homeless (again) and of course, she called to let me know how bad it was. I was so stressed out. All the plans were made. I wrote on this forum and everyone said to go. Right before we left, I hid some cash in an envelope on our back patio.....just in case. It was enough for one night in a hotel if my daughter called to say she was out in the street she could have a night to be safe and figure it out. It was sort of an insurance for me, rather than for her, although of course, she did call while we were away and I told her to go get the cash, (which was all she really wanted anyway) she did and I didn't hear anything else from her while we were gone. </p><p></p><p>One day I recall sitting on a curb in front of a store on Kauai just ruminating away about what a bad mother I was. How could I leave my homeless daughter and go on a trip??? For a moment I was completely lost. Then I looked up at the palm trees, the gorgeous beauty, and I realized how much of my life had been eaten up by others dramas and chaos. I chose to enjoy myself for the rest of the trip. Of course, I had to re decide that a few times, but I did and had a wonderful time. </p><p></p><p>Go on your trip. Enjoy yourselves. Celebrate life. You deserve it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 716084, member: 13542"] Go on your vacation. It isn't your daughter preventing you from going, it is your guilt and sense of responsibility. Choose YOU. Choose life. Choose joy. A number of years ago I was on my way to Kauai with my husband. Right before we left, my daughter became homeless (again) and of course, she called to let me know how bad it was. I was so stressed out. All the plans were made. I wrote on this forum and everyone said to go. Right before we left, I hid some cash in an envelope on our back patio.....just in case. It was enough for one night in a hotel if my daughter called to say she was out in the street she could have a night to be safe and figure it out. It was sort of an insurance for me, rather than for her, although of course, she did call while we were away and I told her to go get the cash, (which was all she really wanted anyway) she did and I didn't hear anything else from her while we were gone. One day I recall sitting on a curb in front of a store on Kauai just ruminating away about what a bad mother I was. How could I leave my homeless daughter and go on a trip??? For a moment I was completely lost. Then I looked up at the palm trees, the gorgeous beauty, and I realized how much of my life had been eaten up by others dramas and chaos. I chose to enjoy myself for the rest of the trip. Of course, I had to re decide that a few times, but I did and had a wonderful time. Go on your trip. Enjoy yourselves. Celebrate life. You deserve it. [/QUOTE]
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