I don't get it. Every single time (and it's not often) I try to set something up for husband & myself for a special occasion or God forbid, a vacation (haven't had one of those in about 6 years), drama sets in. We're set to leave in 2 weeks for our big trip. In my previous long post, I mentioned that daughter is some trouble in Nepal, as she has overstayed her time there on her visa by over 60 days. She called last week saying she was being deported and that she needed me to pay for a flight back to Canada (only $1500 one-way). I said, "No" and gave her the Canadian government emergency services info on emergency financial aid to return to Canada. She got angry, emailed a War & Peace diatribe about all my faults, etc. and then we didn't hear from her. She called today to say that because I have destroyed everything in her life she is going off social media and she will forward the address for her coffin, as she won't be alive after tonight. I started to speak and she disconnected the call. So, as per our suicide protocol, I contacted the Canadian government emergency services. Got the same lady on the line that handled the last Thailand crisis (sometimes it's nice to not have to tell your entire story again). She confirmed that daughter has indeed overstayed her visa but authorities have not detained or shipped daughter out of the country. Daughter called emergency services to ask them for money. They told her they could assist BUT that it was a loan and would have to be repaid either directly or through income tax refunds, etc. And that's where she left it. So now the government will contact the consulate in Nepal, go to where she is staying and assess her medical condition/safety. They apparently have her recent medical records on file (where she slashed her arm up). I told them that if she comes back to Canada, she is NOT coming to our house. Trying to stay detached but having a really hard time. I'm 99% sure she is playing us (and the system) but there is that 1% that says maybe she'll really try to end her life...right at what is supposed to be the start of my 'happy time'. My brain says, "How can I be happy when she is trying to kill herself?" I can't seem to shut those thoughts out. There's no way she knows about these little "positive events that are planned" yet she seems to be able to find the right time to do it. Part of me wants to cancel my flights/hotels and just say to hell with it. What are your tips/tricks to stay in focus when sadness sets in just when you've planned a happy event?