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Why is it such a hard concept?
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 404267" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I obviously never got the single parent blame thing, but I have repeatedly got the "It's because you're disabled" line. Well, my mother was disabled, but none of us were problem kids. </p><p></p><p>I think part of the problem is, people look for handy excuses, plus are overly focussed on blame rather than solutions. Also, when it's a child we see them as unfinished, as possibly still able to be changed to 'fixed' compared to an abusive adult which we see as unlikely to change.</p><p></p><p>So if we have an abusive child - we should fix that. It's seen to be our job as parents. And if we try to say, "I need help to do this," it's easier to shove the blame back on us and this absolves the person from having to care, or lift a finger.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 404267, member: 1991"] I obviously never got the single parent blame thing, but I have repeatedly got the "It's because you're disabled" line. Well, my mother was disabled, but none of us were problem kids. I think part of the problem is, people look for handy excuses, plus are overly focussed on blame rather than solutions. Also, when it's a child we see them as unfinished, as possibly still able to be changed to 'fixed' compared to an abusive adult which we see as unlikely to change. So if we have an abusive child - we should fix that. It's seen to be our job as parents. And if we try to say, "I need help to do this," it's easier to shove the blame back on us and this absolves the person from having to care, or lift a finger. Marg [/QUOTE]
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