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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 342665" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'd put the anger on the backburner for now, but keep the reason for the anger in the forefront. Then call the person in charge of the program and have a friendly, frank discussion with the person.</p><p>Ask things like - "she is in this mess because I have already been trying to encourage her and ensure she gets places, I've done everything a parent could do - but SHE chose to actively work against this and sabotage herself. SO - what can you say to me to encourage ME to keep doing this when all it does is bring grief, screaming rages, tantrums and lack of output? Please give ME something to help me go on."</p><p></p><p>I'd also be asking - surely trying to make it look like I am the one responsible for her success or failure, is totally removing her personal responsibility for her own problems?</p><p></p><p>Then see what they say.</p><p></p><p>I think the school's position is different to yours, they have different regulations they have to follow and you might find the person very understanding. They may also have some interesting ideas on what you could do, as well as some sound advice. They MUST come across this sort of thing often.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 342665, member: 1991"] I'd put the anger on the backburner for now, but keep the reason for the anger in the forefront. Then call the person in charge of the program and have a friendly, frank discussion with the person. Ask things like - "she is in this mess because I have already been trying to encourage her and ensure she gets places, I've done everything a parent could do - but SHE chose to actively work against this and sabotage herself. SO - what can you say to me to encourage ME to keep doing this when all it does is bring grief, screaming rages, tantrums and lack of output? Please give ME something to help me go on." I'd also be asking - surely trying to make it look like I am the one responsible for her success or failure, is totally removing her personal responsibility for her own problems? Then see what they say. I think the school's position is different to yours, they have different regulations they have to follow and you might find the person very understanding. They may also have some interesting ideas on what you could do, as well as some sound advice. They MUST come across this sort of thing often. Marg [/QUOTE]
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