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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 250828" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>What I learned from our first therapist who admitted after a year that she actually thought we were exaggerating K's issues! HA, was that she was blown away by how well K had had held it together for so long! </p><p>So now when we go into a new therapist, we interview them. I ask them what they know about the disorder. I bring a video of K. I ask them to watch it after the meeting I bring a folder of K's info and ask them to copy any info they think would help them understand K better.</p><p>I tell them that I realize we are not perfect and husband and I can learn, but that the therapist needs to take the time and learn about my child. </p><p>No good therapist can figure out my child in a couple of sessions and if they think they can then they are not good. </p><p>I ask them if they know about Honeymooning? I then tell them that K will do this, possibly a few weeks, maybe a few months. If they are good they will slowly get through this and see the real K. </p><p>I reiterate that we are a team and husband and I want to learn how to help K better or we would not be there. </p><p>I give them all of the examples of K holding it together for professionals, and how they have been SO surprised when the she lets loose! </p><p></p><p>I also give them the old, "Well you know all of this if you know about Early Onset Bi-Polar (EOBP) and especially Early Onset Bi-Polar (EOBP) in girls"</p><p></p><p>I always kiss up a bit, but keep up the fact that I know my child the best and they have a lot to learn from me also.</p><p></p><p>husband and I also have monthly meetings with her therapist without K, to discuss our goals, strategies etc. </p><p>We are open to trying things that we have tried in the past also, don't ever give up on old things. </p><p>Sure bribery, allowance or taking things away, may not have worked a year ago or even 6 months... but our kids change and revisiting these things is a good idea. </p><p></p><p>And remember, it is not our fault, sure we can always be better parents, but then so can all parents!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 250828, member: 3155"] What I learned from our first therapist who admitted after a year that she actually thought we were exaggerating K's issues! HA, was that she was blown away by how well K had had held it together for so long! So now when we go into a new therapist, we interview them. I ask them what they know about the disorder. I bring a video of K. I ask them to watch it after the meeting I bring a folder of K's info and ask them to copy any info they think would help them understand K better. I tell them that I realize we are not perfect and husband and I can learn, but that the therapist needs to take the time and learn about my child. No good therapist can figure out my child in a couple of sessions and if they think they can then they are not good. I ask them if they know about Honeymooning? I then tell them that K will do this, possibly a few weeks, maybe a few months. If they are good they will slowly get through this and see the real K. I reiterate that we are a team and husband and I want to learn how to help K better or we would not be there. I give them all of the examples of K holding it together for professionals, and how they have been SO surprised when the she lets loose! I also give them the old, "Well you know all of this if you know about Early Onset Bi-Polar (EOBP) and especially Early Onset Bi-Polar (EOBP) in girls" I always kiss up a bit, but keep up the fact that I know my child the best and they have a lot to learn from me also. husband and I also have monthly meetings with her therapist without K, to discuss our goals, strategies etc. We are open to trying things that we have tried in the past also, don't ever give up on old things. Sure bribery, allowance or taking things away, may not have worked a year ago or even 6 months... but our kids change and revisiting these things is a good idea. And remember, it is not our fault, sure we can always be better parents, but then so can all parents! [/QUOTE]
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