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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 645644" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm a huge believer in tough love, but if my son was only eighteen and as sick as yours, comahead, I would do all I could to support and try to help so he did not die. It would be a selfish decision...I could not bear to know my child may die and watch it happen, but at his level of dysfunction I would still try...as much as I could. I'd be there. I'd never ever give him any way to communicate with anyone outside the hospital. Doubt he's paying his cell phone bill so it's really yours. Let him use the regular phone...it records who he calls and costs him money.</p><p></p><p>Being a proactive person, I'd look around f or University rehabs that are lenient about payment options, but good about care. I'd stay as much as I could stay until he was more stable, partly to make sure his "friends" don't get time alone with him. I'd talk to the nurses and see if I could gain allies, even though he is eighteen. They are responsible if he gets hurt in their facility because they are not being careful enough. I would do that while he recovers.</p><p></p><p>I would NOT bring him home. That's where I'd draw the line. Not my house. Not my money going directly to you for anything. I'd be there as an emotional anchor. If I was rebuffed and/or abused, then I'd give up.</p><p></p><p>I am not in any way telling you to do this. And I don't believe Susie or a nyone who gave you advice is wrong. But I'm telling you what I know I'd do and how far I'd take it. I'd help to a point, but, in the end, it is his life, his choices, nobody can stop the drug use once he is out of the hospital. Does he have Medicaid?</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I wish you luck. I hope that once he has his senses back completely this becomes a wake up call. I know somebody who lost a fairly young child to alcoholism and...it was so very sad. He overdosed on alcohol and killed his liver. He was 26. I tear up remembering.</p><p></p><p>I know myself. If this ever happened a second time, after I put in so much emotion and time to try to give it one last shot, I don't even know if I'd go to the hospital. But I'd do it the first time. Again, just take what is useful, if anything, and leave the rest. I am not an expert on this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 645644, member: 1550"] I'm a huge believer in tough love, but if my son was only eighteen and as sick as yours, comahead, I would do all I could to support and try to help so he did not die. It would be a selfish decision...I could not bear to know my child may die and watch it happen, but at his level of dysfunction I would still try...as much as I could. I'd be there. I'd never ever give him any way to communicate with anyone outside the hospital. Doubt he's paying his cell phone bill so it's really yours. Let him use the regular phone...it records who he calls and costs him money. Being a proactive person, I'd look around f or University rehabs that are lenient about payment options, but good about care. I'd stay as much as I could stay until he was more stable, partly to make sure his "friends" don't get time alone with him. I'd talk to the nurses and see if I could gain allies, even though he is eighteen. They are responsible if he gets hurt in their facility because they are not being careful enough. I would do that while he recovers. I would NOT bring him home. That's where I'd draw the line. Not my house. Not my money going directly to you for anything. I'd be there as an emotional anchor. If I was rebuffed and/or abused, then I'd give up. I am not in any way telling you to do this. And I don't believe Susie or a nyone who gave you advice is wrong. But I'm telling you what I know I'd do and how far I'd take it. I'd help to a point, but, in the end, it is his life, his choices, nobody can stop the drug use once he is out of the hospital. Does he have Medicaid? Anyway, I wish you luck. I hope that once he has his senses back completely this becomes a wake up call. I know somebody who lost a fairly young child to alcoholism and...it was so very sad. He overdosed on alcohol and killed his liver. He was 26. I tear up remembering. I know myself. If this ever happened a second time, after I put in so much emotion and time to try to give it one last shot, I don't even know if I'd go to the hospital. But I'd do it the first time. Again, just take what is useful, if anything, and leave the rest. I am not an expert on this. [/QUOTE]
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