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Will he ever get it??
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 646038" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I think this is a good place to be, for you and for him. Silence is good. Being together, sitting in silence, without you trying to control or manage or fix, and him not having to blame or deny or coerce---that is a new place to be and a good place to be. Consider this progress. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I would tell him kindly that I will not bring his cell phone. He won't like it, and if he shouts, I would leave the room.</p><p></p><p>I agree with all above that this is a time to bring all possible resources to bear on him and his health---mental, physical, emotional and spiritual.</p><p></p><p>You won't be able to get through to him at all (I don't believe parents are meant to be the ones) but he might listen to other people, even a little bit. You can be the facilitator.</p><p></p><p>I am very sorry that he has done this to himself. I always remind myself that things can be much worse than they are today. They have been worse in the past and they can get worse again. </p><p></p><p>I know you love your son and it's so hard to watch him self-destruct. Take a breath, take a step back, and spend some time right now on taking care of YOU. He is right where he needs to be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 646038, member: 17542"] I think this is a good place to be, for you and for him. Silence is good. Being together, sitting in silence, without you trying to control or manage or fix, and him not having to blame or deny or coerce---that is a new place to be and a good place to be. Consider this progress. I would tell him kindly that I will not bring his cell phone. He won't like it, and if he shouts, I would leave the room. I agree with all above that this is a time to bring all possible resources to bear on him and his health---mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. You won't be able to get through to him at all (I don't believe parents are meant to be the ones) but he might listen to other people, even a little bit. You can be the facilitator. I am very sorry that he has done this to himself. I always remind myself that things can be much worse than they are today. They have been worse in the past and they can get worse again. I know you love your son and it's so hard to watch him self-destruct. Take a breath, take a step back, and spend some time right now on taking care of YOU. He is right where he needs to be. [/QUOTE]
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