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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 659603" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I think I know what you mean, nlj. For us, there are many beautiful rhythms of simple day to day loving that we cannot relax into like we would if we were able to live as our best selves. We see how it is with other mothers and daughters ~ we see the way families encompass and change and mellow and strengthen as they care for and even, celebrate the mother. </p><p></p><p>Our mothers think and behave so strangely. </p><p></p><p>There comes a time when we realize we're being overtaken and eroded away by close contact. Almost as though we've been standing by, watching the person we believed we were wither away.</p><p></p><p>I do love my mom. But she does some very mean things, right to this day; that seems like such a wrong thing to know about your own mother.</p><p></p><p>That wrongness is a strange, strange thing to incorporate into our realities, somehow.</p><p></p><p>Perhaps thinking as pasa does is the way to see it.</p><p></p><p>I know what you mean though about how right it feels to want to see them and help them and cherish them with special things. That is a very good feeling; I have had fun bringing my mother special little things.</p><p></p><p>May I ask, nlj, how your brother sees himself now that he chooses not to see the mother? </p><p></p><p>I am glad you two still see one another and can speak openly about what is happening.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 659603, member: 17461"] I think I know what you mean, nlj. For us, there are many beautiful rhythms of simple day to day loving that we cannot relax into like we would if we were able to live as our best selves. We see how it is with other mothers and daughters ~ we see the way families encompass and change and mellow and strengthen as they care for and even, celebrate the mother. Our mothers think and behave so strangely. There comes a time when we realize we're being overtaken and eroded away by close contact. Almost as though we've been standing by, watching the person we believed we were wither away. I do love my mom. But she does some very mean things, right to this day; that seems like such a wrong thing to know about your own mother. That wrongness is a strange, strange thing to incorporate into our realities, somehow. Perhaps thinking as pasa does is the way to see it. I know what you mean though about how right it feels to want to see them and help them and cherish them with special things. That is a very good feeling; I have had fun bringing my mother special little things. May I ask, nlj, how your brother sees himself now that he chooses not to see the mother? I am glad you two still see one another and can speak openly about what is happening. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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