I've posted before about my mother. I don't have a loving mother/daughter relationship with her. She's not a very nice person. I've continued to visit regularly for many decades despite her behaviour and despite the fact that my only brother refuses to have anything to do with her. I'm the target for all her moaning, whining and 'poor little me' routine and have been since I was a little girl. She's made a will. I'm not mentioned in it. She leaves everything to my brother, the one who hasn't seen her for a decade. I was reading SWOT's post about estrangements this afternoon. One of the points mentions "petty" reasons for estrangements. Writing a will leaving everything to one of your children and ignoring the other isn't a petty thing is it. It's pretty nasty, not only in its primary intent, but also in its secondary intent, which is to cause a breakdown in the relationship I have with my brother, a lasting legacy to drive a wedge between us. I have no idea why I still bother visiting and phoning her. The only reason, as someone wrote here somewhere, is that she may be unworthy of me but she's the only mother I have. I've been thinking again about this will of hers. If I made a will like that I wouldn't expect any of my children to have anything more to do with me. I phoned her yesterday. It was very tiring. Maybe I should become estranged from her. Why do I think that I couldn't do that? I can't be arsed to have anything to do with her and yet I seem unable to stop having anything to do with her. It's a mystery.