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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 749640" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Welcome Racha</p><p></p><p>I’ve been with this group just a couple of months. Keep coming back, aa they say in Al anon. There is no magic potion that will instantly cure all our ills here but with a healthy pattern of living (good friends, good books, prayer, meditation, possibly therapy) it will serve us to the degree we work it. </p><p></p><p>I have good days where I have nuggets of advice that comes from within and other days I feel like a failure. Often times I don’t even know if what I’m doing is right. If I’m enabling or not. </p><p></p><p>I.e. My oldest homeless son who lives in his car (that I continue to gas) went to a local food assistance stand at an outside lot. He’s been before and received perishable items. Of course he asked me to hold on to them. I expressed last time (see old posts regarding egg salad sandwiches) that I didn’t want to get looped in to meeting him every day. For me this just perpetuates my enabling. So what does he do yesterday? He gets more food but 85% of it was perishable. Now I’m the go-between again. I’m already scheduled to meet him today with some of his food. The committees in my head say. “This really isn’t too much trouble and it’s the least I can do .” Vs this is just me enabling him to continue this lifestyle of doing “nothing”. </p><p></p><p>I get so exhausted like I’m riding a roller coaster all the time. </p><p></p><p>The good thing is I know I will have better days.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 749640, member: 23405"] Welcome Racha I’ve been with this group just a couple of months. Keep coming back, aa they say in Al anon. There is no magic potion that will instantly cure all our ills here but with a healthy pattern of living (good friends, good books, prayer, meditation, possibly therapy) it will serve us to the degree we work it. I have good days where I have nuggets of advice that comes from within and other days I feel like a failure. Often times I don’t even know if what I’m doing is right. If I’m enabling or not. I.e. My oldest homeless son who lives in his car (that I continue to gas) went to a local food assistance stand at an outside lot. He’s been before and received perishable items. Of course he asked me to hold on to them. I expressed last time (see old posts regarding egg salad sandwiches) that I didn’t want to get looped in to meeting him every day. For me this just perpetuates my enabling. So what does he do yesterday? He gets more food but 85% of it was perishable. Now I’m the go-between again. I’m already scheduled to meet him today with some of his food. The committees in my head say. “This really isn’t too much trouble and it’s the least I can do .” Vs this is just me enabling him to continue this lifestyle of doing “nothing”. I get so exhausted like I’m riding a roller coaster all the time. The good thing is I know I will have better days. [/QUOTE]
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