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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 150707" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Well, thanks for saying so, but no way! I'm just different than you are. Not to mention, my kids have both been out of my house for several years. It's just husband and I. Other than husband, I'm not in "Mommy mode" anymore.</p><p></p><p>It will be hard for Andre and hard for you. But as much as you want to protect him from himself, you can't anymore. You <em>can</em> guide him, but usually only when he seeks it out. You can be savvy about knowing the difference between his asking for guidance and peeing in your ear and telling you that it's raining outside. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes a handout is ok, when guidance is sought out as well, I guess. Like earlier in the year when we made sure that M had clothing good enough for a job interview, and gave him a few bucks to rent his own place after he had helped out husband with some home repairs. But it was totally up to him to get the job and keep it and keep the place. Luckily we don't have to worry that he will blow cash on drugs. I'm not naive, I know he dabbles in pot and drinks. But he is 21, and I knew that he wanted a place to live more than he wanted to blow money on a bottle. I just hope he can keep the job. I guess we never get over worrying. You just begin to realize that it does no good.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 150707, member: 99"] Well, thanks for saying so, but no way! I'm just different than you are. Not to mention, my kids have both been out of my house for several years. It's just husband and I. Other than husband, I'm not in "Mommy mode" anymore. It will be hard for Andre and hard for you. But as much as you want to protect him from himself, you can't anymore. You [I]can[/I] guide him, but usually only when he seeks it out. You can be savvy about knowing the difference between his asking for guidance and peeing in your ear and telling you that it's raining outside. Sometimes a handout is ok, when guidance is sought out as well, I guess. Like earlier in the year when we made sure that M had clothing good enough for a job interview, and gave him a few bucks to rent his own place after he had helped out husband with some home repairs. But it was totally up to him to get the job and keep it and keep the place. Luckily we don't have to worry that he will blow cash on drugs. I'm not naive, I know he dabbles in pot and drinks. But he is 21, and I knew that he wanted a place to live more than he wanted to blow money on a bottle. I just hope he can keep the job. I guess we never get over worrying. You just begin to realize that it does no good. [/QUOTE]
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